Crystal,

Sometimes we can have such a strong “future focus” that we don’t know how to enjoy the road. For instance, you had great grades which were part of being “headgirl” but don’t seem to have had any happiness as their own event. Always it was a check on the list, with the next item on the list looming. Said differently, if we get absorbed in the destination, we lose our joy along the way. And, when we get to that destination, we just trade it for another destination and keep pushing and pushing.

The solution is simple but difficult. We have to stop and smell the roses. When we get good grades, we have to stop, let go of the “tomorrow goal” and see the accomplishment for what it is. When we are with our friends, we have to stop thinking about the next items of the list and see them for who they are, and surrender into the beauty and nourishment of playing. When we stop playing, our heart closes and our mind takes over. How could there be joy in such a place?

This world is only as serious as we make it. Perhaps it is time to find your laughter again!

With warmth,
Matt