Elizabeth,

I’m sorry for your breakup, and feel sympathies for you. My teacher said that when we go through big emotional challenges, we do best when we give them space. Said differently, you sound like you’re grieving and could use some nurturing.

Consider engaging in activities that you find pleasing. Hang out with trusted friends, take a bath, go for a nature walk. The heart has a difficult time letting go, and with relationships the mind keeps feeding it false hope with “maybe he’ll come back”. Even if he did, it won’t be the same. Said differently, when he ended it with you, a wound opened that needs to heal before you can move on.

Pema Chodron has a great book “When Things Fall Apart” which is great at helping pick up the pieces.

With warmth,
Matt