Dear Jana:

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I understand your concern about privacy and wanting to create a safe space for others. However, personally, I don’t see how deleting your thread will benefit anyone.

It’s important to remember that your contributions and discussions are valuable, and you didn’t occupy too much space here. Sharing your experiences and seeking advice is what this small community is all about. Your insights can help others who might be going through similar situations. Even if any part of your thread helps one person, that’s good enough in my book.

If you feel comfortable, you could consider leaving the thread as it is. This way, others can still benefit from the valuable advice shared.

Ultimately, it’s your decision, and I support you in whatever you choose to do. Please know that your presence and contributions are appreciated.

anita

Dear Jana:

You are very welcome! There is no doubt in my mind that you (or me/ anyone in the forums) have no part whatsoever in her decision to delete her account and threads.

“I thought I did something wrong again”- how deep and automatic are our core beliefs, aren’t they? In this case the core belief is something like: “if something goes wrong, if someone is unhappy, it’s my fault, I must have done something wrong yet again!”

I hope to read more from you about your work on self-compassion, validating and loving your inner child- when your thoughts are more settled.

anita