Dear JEN:

You wrote about a significant sense of emptiness, a confusion, a gap between who you are and who you would like to be. You wrote about anxiousness, restlessness and a strong motivation to find out your personal truth.

I would very much like to help you, just a little, in your quest. We can communicate back and forth for as long as you choose to.

Can you tell me who is the person you would like to be, wish to be (if the self destructive habits/ impulses were not in your way)?

anita

Dear Jen:

What a fascinating post, above. I want to respond to different parts of it and seek for more of your thoughts about these different parts of what you wrote:

“She analyzes her mental in a sympathetic way” I concur that this is a very worthy goal: to be sympathetic, or empathetic to yourself. No way can a person be mentally healthy without feeling and applying empathy to self!

Often people can analyze well enough, logic working okay but without empathy for themselves, no matter how strong one’s IQ and analytical skill,the person will not be healthy and well.

“A person that has the ability to cease their mind from spinning..” This is what meditation and mindfulness is all about, relaxation and calm as an ongoing pursuit. Our best functioning is when calm, when our brain is not spinning. When it is spinning, a mental fog is created and we are unclear and confused. When calm that fog clears and we can think and feel and know what is going on.

“A person with personal purpose outside of what the world expects of them” – very important point. Marketing expectation is that people buy, buy buy and get into debt paying interest on the debts their whole life. There are other expectations: some people may expect you to be submissive in relation to them. Actually marketing does demand submission as well. so yes, do not submit to expectations out there, often those expectations are not aimed at your best interest!

“A person that stands firmly in their principles”- yes, especially when impulsive drives are felt, to not give in to those and keep the principles in mind, as highest motivation.

“A person that expresses themselves concisely”- this is extremely important to me. Vague expressions are troubling to me. Clarity is precious.

There is more, but would you like to elaborate on any one of these points, just one for now, for better clarity and even deeper understanding of that one point, for now?

anita