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August 31, 2018 at 7:16 pm #223921
JoseParticipant- Hello, just subscribed to this page (to be honest, it’s my first time writing a thread lol)
OK…I’m going to be as straight forward as I can here, I had a really hard time to what it comes to love for the last 5 years, relationships that went down the tubes (I admit it, it’s mostly my fault) plus some that didn’t even develop, with that adding the disappointments and being the disappointment itself, until most recently I’ve deeply fell in love with a girl that wasn’t meant to be, still, I managed to have a crush on her so much, it’s scary, everytime I see her in Instagram when she posts a story I get nervous, and by the time she started a relationship, I felt deeply sad, whit this void that gets deeper, and i know that at this time and age (I’m 27) I have to move on, specially when I’m in my twenties the time of discoveries and good times as a single guy, but it’s inevitable to fall in love no matter what, I’ve spent times overthinking the possibilities and daydreaming about how much I’ve could give to that person, the happy moments I would give her, only to realize in the end the reality I’m facing, this kind of things are not healthy for me 🙁 specially that I’m suffering depression since my adolescence (I’ll put a thread about it in the near future). I’m in this point where I have this mindset of “I don’t care anymore” but i do care!
Please…do share some advice and wisdom, with taking the time reading this I’ll be grateful…God bless you and thank you
September 1, 2018 at 4:18 am #223947
AnonymousGuestDear Jose:
You didn’t ask a specific question or stated a specific difficulty for which you want advice. You can restate clearly what it is next, if you want to make it clear to me.
You wrote about you “being the disappointment itself”, will you elaborate on this, what do you mean by it?
anita
September 1, 2018 at 7:02 pm #224029JoseParticipantHello miss, sorry about that x_x must’ve been a grammar mistake, what I meant is myself being the disappointment.
actually, I didn’t have a question in mind, just wrote the story just to let it go and share my story
The main problem is mostly emotional breakdown, followed by anger and sadness
it’s complicated
i hope you understand
September 2, 2018 at 3:41 am #224045AnonymousGuestDear Jose:
I will repeat what you share (it helps me understand when I do that):
You are 27, suffered depression since your adolescence, had relationships in the past five years that failed, mostly your fault, you wrote, and relationships that you wish you had but which never developed.
One of the relationships that didn’t develop and was not meant to be is with this girl you are currently feeling in love with, so much so that “it’s scary”. You feel sad about it, “with this void that gets deeper”. You think that being a single man in your twenties, you are supposed to enjoy “time of discoveries and good times”, but you find yourself in love with this girl, overthinking and daydreaming about her, specifically how much you could give her, the happy moments you would give her.
My thoughts: I too suffered from depression in my adolescence (and onward) and I too didn’t have good times in my twenties, hardly, lots and lots of sadness and aloneness instead. You wrote that you daydreaming about making her happy. I was wondering, as a child, did you try to make your mother (or father) happy, or wish they were happy, but they were very unhappy?
anita
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