I am now almost 3 months in therapy and finally some things are starting to shift. Two weeks ago I was reading an article on setting goals and suddenly I thought it is not about the goal of getting a relationship but on the process towards that goal. In that way I’m not setting myself up for failure (as I would have done in the past) because I’m allowing myself to learn along the way.

Somehow since then I’m slowly being more positive about myself. The words I am good enough are going through my mind more and more. This even helped me to loose a few pounds since then. And this morning, while I was waiting to get the windshield of my car replaced, I approached a beautiful woman for a chat. And it turned out to be a friendly conversation. That is something I never would have done when I started this post. Experiencing this was a huge success for me.

I’m not dating yet. Although I have not put it on hold but a relationship is definitely not top priority anymore. I’ll see what the future brings. It is now about me and the process of healing. So things are going in the right direction.

Patrick