August 5, 2013 at 2:24 pm #39763TrixieParticipant
Hi everyone, It’s been two months since my break up and making little steps forward. But, my question is why is the universe sending me signs about him. I have not listened to the radio in two months until this morning and boom, his favourite song is on. A car cut me off on the way to work and boom it has a sticker on it from his work, and the same brand of car and the list goes on & on. Everywhere I turn I see his name, his car, his work, his gym , his football team, we employ and new person at work with the same name. Am I going a bit crazy ???
Also, I have an aversion to my phone and intense jealousy when I see others with their phones and getting text, also Facebook ( we use to be friends) but now I get anxiety when looking at it, I am going crazy right ????
Trixie-BelleAugust 5, 2013 at 2:35 pm #39764SassypantsParticipant
Oooo I know how you feel, but congrats to you for staying strong, 2 months is a long time! Signs are everywhere. It sounds to me you are not over him as he is still in your mind making the signs more prevalent. Have you tried meditating? As far as the phone, don’t compare yourself to other girls. I would get rid of FB as it seems like you’re vulnerable to comparing yourself to others at the present time. Maybe down the road you’ll be ready for it. Remember you are on your own journey in this life. Trust in a higher power that you are exactly where you are meant to be at the present moment. Keep working on yourself and creating a happy life for you! xo!August 5, 2013 at 3:30 pm #39768MattParticipant
I think Linds noticed well… the signs are fruit that represent your openness to the universe and the path of healing from the breakup. Its like looking in a mirror and seeing the spots where he still has marks on your emotional body. Consider they are auspicious and empty, and fade with time. Breathe them in, breathe them out. I wonder what auspicious messages are around you that don’t have to do with him. Seeing those too? They’re there!
MattAugust 5, 2013 at 6:04 pm #39779JohnParticipant
Hmmmm. “…the universe sending me signs…” I can’t say I subscribe to that philosophy, but that’s simply my bias which I put out there openly and honestly.
Could what you’re experiencing be an analogy to the fact that when someone is asked to stop thinking of pink elephants, all they think about is pink elephants?
I’m wondering if you’re actively working at not thinking about him, trying to push him out of your thoughts. Is he constantly walking in and out of your imagination? Are you having conversations with him in your head only to recognize that it’s happening and then trying to actively suppress those thoughts?
In my experience, whenever I become obsessed about something, but actively trying to push it out, I find the object of my obsession boomerangs right back at me in indirect ways; in images, sounds, signs (both figurative and literal), TV shows, movies, commercials, the internet, in other people, it’s everywhere!
And what happens then? Well, you think to yourself, “If I’m seeing these things, then they must be important right? It must all mean something? It must be sign! Right?”
Wrong! In fact, I’m going to argue that it’s all a hallucination brought about by your mind. The only meaning any person, place, or thing has, is the the meaning that you ascribe to it. And you can choose to make it meaning nothing or everything. It’s up to you.
But if, deep down inside, you want it to mean something, if you’re still obsessing, if you’re still attached, then if you look closely enough, you’ll probably be able to see his face in the grain of sand.
I like Matt’s suggestion – breathe in, breathe out and begin to see things for what they really are.August 10, 2013 at 7:13 pm #40161TrixieParticipant
Thank for the honest answers. Your all correct I’m not over him and still attached emotionally and hoping he will see the error and come back to me. Silly I guess! I have to see him next week at work and feel caught in the vortex of him again. It is very hard when you love someone so much it hurts. Broken hearted! I am working on attachment and why he was my source of happiness and now I feel so lonely and rejected. Attachment and acceptance is the hardest lesson to learn.
I wish I could wipe my mind and wish I never met him in some ways. Is he the awakening to my life ? I find it hard to be happy without him. Crazy I guess.
Thanking so much for reading. ps I am mediating on acceptance and attachment and sending Lovingkindness to him .
Trixie-BelleAugust 10, 2013 at 10:17 pm #40171MattParticipant
I’m happy you’ve been meditating and cultivating metta! If a million people did that, there would be a million peaceful people. 🙂 A small thing came to heart as I read your words.
Not silly, just “is”. Not crazy, just “is”. This world has plenty of people who will try to step on a curious and explorative heart… no need for Trixie-belle to be one of them! 🙂