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  • #53567
    Becky
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    Hi everyone
    I am 17 years old and currently at sixth form college. I have been dealing with bad anxiety since panic attacks last summer over my GCSE exams. While I have been able to overcome fear of panic attacks and therefore the attacks themselves (although I had bad panic today which I think could be down to being rundown from the stomach flu) my anxiety has only gotten worse. Every single day from when I get up to when I go to sleep I worry. I worry about everything and anything. For example here are the worries that have presented themselves to me in a single day: a fear of choking on food and drink, of food getting in my lungs, a fear of losing control of my body e.g paralysiing myself, a fear of intrusive thoughts and fears associated with this e.g what if I hurt myself or someone around me, what if I drive myself mad constantly worrying over these thoughts, a fear of laughing myself to death, a fear of holding my breath until I pass out, a fear of what all this anxiety is doing to me, what if I make myself sick?, what if I go mad?, a fear of death, even the hiccups inspired fear within me! After seeing a counsellor I was doing well but I recently contracted the stomach flu which has made me feel weak and tired and allowed me time off to ruminate and create lots of nice new worries for myself! I can’t remember the last time I was able to relax, the last time I ate without thinking what if I choke, the last time I was able to enjoy something without thinking what is the point of even doing this? Thats another of my problems. I ruminate a lot on the meaning of life. Why are we here? What is the point? What happens when I die? I think daily about death. I am so scared of everything and its ruining my life. As I am at college this is also impacting on my college work. I can’t concentrate or focus for all my worrying about my health or going mad. Even when I feel ok I think of all the people out in the world who aren’t ok and I feel bad again. I feel like this anxiety is taking over my life. Before this horrible anxiety struck, I used to enjoy everything. The smallest things made me happy. I was an anxious person but only in social situations, I could sit at home for days just allowing my mind to wander I would be quite happy just to have time to enter a world of my own. I used to love the idea of the universe and I used to be so intrigued by it. I never gave much thought to death. Now every minute of every day I am anxious and I feel there is no escape. I just want to be the normal, happy girl I was before but I see no way forward. I don’t feel comfortable being in control of my own body. I don’t feel like I have enough responsibility. I have fears over making myself do stuff I don’t want to do. What if I make myself hold my breath until I pass out? What if I make myself laugh until I die? etc. I just wish someone else would take the driving seat. I feel like bursting in to tears when I think of what my life has become. How do I overcome so many fears? Will I ever be myself again? I just feel so lost. If anyone could offer me any support it would be much appreciated.
    Thank you,
    Becky

    #53578
    kent warren
    Participant

    Wow Becky, darn near everything you have expressed applies to me also, and I am an old guy. Like you, I had been pretty much only anxious in social situations but a bad career move on my part caused panic attacks and now overwhelming anxiety over everything that just won’t let up. I did pretty much get over the panic attacks except I still do have them when I first wake up, around 4 or 5 am. Guess I can’t guard against them then. But the general anxiety is paralyzing. I procrastinate and that causes even more problems. I feel I am not me anymore, if anyone can understand what I mean. I too am looking for a way to just shut all this off and be normal again. There has to be. It started like a flip of a switch, we just need to find a way to flip the switch to the off position.

    Sorry I don’t have a cure for you. I just want you to know you are not alone.

    #53579
    Cortney
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    First, take a deeeeep breath.

    I was in your situation just 3 months ago, and I’m still getting back on track to a new happier, healthier minded me. Reading posts on this site honestly has helped me tremensouly. Also doing yoga for me helps, so I would suggest yoga or google guided meditation. Above all, cut yourself some slack. We can be so hard on ourselves and it’s easy to forget to simply take care of ourselves. I know it seems hard and hopeless, but it really isn’t. I fully believe that you can lessen anxiety to the point where you forget about it entirely. One thing I encourage you to look into is EFT, or emotional freedom techniques. Gala Darling explains it very well in my opinion. And just know that you aren’t alone. I’m 19 and in a very tough college program, and I totally understand what you are going through. Figure out for you what initially triggers the anxiety, and don’t fight it. Acknowledge it, let it sit for a second and try to listen to it. And then try to let it go. I think what helped me most is when I stopped fighting with myself, recognized I was anxious, and either talked to a support system or did something I enjoy like catch up on my TV shows or shower. Also, 7 Cups of Tea is a great source if you need to talk to someone. I hope you find peace with this.

    -Cortney

    #53653
    Becky
    Participant

    Thank you. It is very much a daily battle against my anxiety and sometimes I feel worse than others. I definetley do a lot of fighting with myself and I find it hard to accept sometimes. Sometimes I just feel paralyzed by my anxiety. I have heard about yoga for anxiety before maybe I should look in to it 🙂

    #53707
    Mike
    Participant

    Hey Becky,
    I too have and still do battle with anxiety, depression, and sometimes just total self destruction. I am also an older guy(53), I’m opening this way not to discourage you but to also let you know your not alone! Here goes: first of all try holding your breath til you pass out or die, Failed didn’t you! now try laughing to death, failed didn’t you! This is something I learned in therapy, people like us tend to embellish our realities as if no one else has these problems or signs. yeah signs! that’s what most of these feelings are signs of what we need to investigate inside our selves with kindness and understanding, that this is a life long journey. As with any journey its easier embarked upon with a plan. First try laughing and holding your breath til you die as I mentioned earlier; once you’ve realized that these are unnecessary worries try some others .Your going to find out that your feeling and living your thoughts. As we both know we are not our thoughts, we are not our feelings. So for now the plan is to investigate and prove to yourself that some of these fears are not realistic. Secondly a therapist can be a great help? I went through maybe a dozen therapists before I found the right one. It’s not “one stop shopping”, if its not a good fit keep looking. We want help so much sometimes we will settle for anyone who is willing to listen I don’t know if this is your case but you need to know your in control! You came here no one forced you! Your in control! There I said it twice “CONTROL” this is what we want and this is usually what’s holding us back from peace of mind. We don’t need control we need to be grounded and once we’re grounded we can investigate our demons rationally. I could go on and on but it wont help you anymore at this point. So I want to finish by saying “I feel your pain” and there’s a solution: it’s all inside of you I recommend looking into getting grounded before going any further. Great sources are Tiny Buddha, Tich Nat Hanh, and Pema Chodrun. Also mentioned in other posts; just breathe, yoga, meditation (not easy but worth trying and trying again and again) and a willingness to fail and get back up again. I hope to see you on here again. Namaste..

    #54317
    Vironika Tugaleva
    Participant

    Dear Becky,

    It seems like you are in the process of learning something important.

    You are not your body.

    You will never die.

    If you want to experience yourself, truly, go into nature. Notice how the dead branches lie peacefully on the ground amongst the growing grass and plants. Notice how there is no resistance against death or decay. All that is alive and dead co-exists, working together.

    Another way I can explain it is this… Let’s say you have a seed in one hand and a shovel in the other. You’re standing over a patch of dirt and you’re about to put the seed underground. The spot you’ve chosen is in such a place that it receives the right amount of sunlight and rain for the seed to grow, one day, into a tree. So, where does life begin? Does it begin when you put the seed underground? Or what about when the seed splits and the sprouts come out? (At this point, there is no trace of the original seed left anymore). Or what about when the sprout comes above the ground?

    Or did life start when you first got the thought in your head that said “Hey! I should plant a seed today.”

    Life cannot be schismed across location or time.

    And neither can you.

    This body you’ve got, fully equipped with a mind and emotions, it’s just a temporary form. It’s your creation, your art, and your exploration. It is not your true identity.

    You are much, much more than that.

    With love,

    Vironika Tugaleva

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