Hi, everyone!

My boyfriend and I have been arguing quite a lot lately, and I feel upset that we’ve come to this rough patch in our relationship.

We usually argue about petty things that come out of each other’s assumptions. When we talk on the phone and I can tell that he is stressed about something else, his tone of voice makes me feel like he’s not enjoying our conversation. I feel as if he is placing his discontentment on me which results to me getting frustrated, then we end up arguing. It is usually this kind of situation where we lose patience with one another and assume what the other is feeling, and base off our reactions to that.

There are times where I feel like he forgets to work with me in nurturing our relationship. We both have jobs – I’m full-time and he’s part-time – but we’re still able to talk to one another a few times during the day. I look forward to talking to him at night because it’s the only time where I can relax and focus on him. Sometimes, I will have a friend or some friends over at my house after work to hang out. He, on the other hand, likes to fill his day with things to do, even if he gets home past midnight. I don’t mind that he does his own thing because we’re still able to message each other, BUT… I do feel like there are times where he gets so busy doing what he does that we end up having limited time at night to actually just have one-on-one time with one another. When I want to talk, he’ll be doing other things while we’re on the phone or he’ll tell me go to sleep, so that I can have enough rest, or he’ll say he’s tired.

This is the part where I don’t know if I’m asking for too much from him. I’ve explained to him my feelings, but he thinks he’s always doing something wrong or lacking in our relationship when I bring up things like these. I tell him that’s not the point I’m getting at, then he just gets tired of talking and will be slightly irritated. Of course, whatever emotion he portrays, I somehow end up reflecting the same thing. Last night, we got into an argument because while we were on the phone, half the time he was talking to his friend whose place he’s sleeping over at in the next couple of days, and I felt like I don’t get his full attention. Every night, he comes home late from working out or hanging out with friends, and I wait for him, despite me having work in the morning. Granted, it’s my decision and he doesn’t ask me to wait for him. I do it because I genuinely miss him and would like to end my night hearing his voice.

Lately, we’ve just been getting on each other’s nerves about the small things and end up arguing. It has resulted in me having this thought in my head of wanting to break up because of emotional exhaustion, but it’s a stupid fearful and anxiety-ridden reflex. Deep down, there’s nothing in this world that will make want to end it with him because overall, he’s a great person and we’ve always found a way to beat the odds.

This time, I need help. Any advice from you guys is appreciated. 🙂