Cal,
You said, that she said, “but then said that she just cannot control how she feels.” If she cannot control how she feels, then who is controlling how she feels? By her saying that is to blame others for actions she knows are very risky to you and the children you have, to say the least. Some people say their spouse is not supporting their emotional needs, but I believe that, for some of those people, no matter how much you support their emotional needs, it’s just never enough for them. So the blame game is on. Just my thoughts…
Pearce