Dear Mika:

You answered your own question in the title of your thread: “Break up, is it really all my fault?”

Answer: “this breakup is MOST DEFINTELY not my fault only”.

I agree.

What a relief that was yesterday as you posted the above, following your powerful counseling session, wasn’t it? This is because you understood the truth, and the false core belief was corrected.

False core beliefs unfortunately don’t get easily and permanently corrected, they don’t disappear following such understanding as you had yesterday. A false core belief will reappear if not in one context, then in another. It is so because a core belief is imprinted in many neuropathways in the brain and a longer process of healing is required to change one, a long time and a lot of work.

Therefore, if your counselor is capable (as he or she seems to be, according to your sharing), and you are able, keep attending counseling. Explore there the origin of this particular core beliefs (that it-is-all-your-fault, it being whatever it is that is wrong). I hope to read more from you.

anita

Dear Mika:

Glad you are in counseling, keep the good work!

anita