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    Anonymous
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    Hey everyone.

    Ive finally ‘met’ someone and it feels so great. Although we have actually been talking for over a year and met through a relationship support group setting.  First we exchanged messages, then emails and now texts and calls.

    We have shared so much with each other and I feel such a connection to him.

    we haven’t actually met in person yet but are hoping to.

    The problem is that I live in Canada (BC), and he lives in Texas.

    We haven’t even discussed actually being in a relationship yet, but I feel like it could possibly get there.

    im really scared though because I feel like inevitably the long distance thing wouldn’t work. But I’m so drawn to him, I’m not sure how much I can let myself fall for him.

    Can long distance relationships like these ever work??

     

    #141393
    Craig
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    Hi Heartbrokengurl,

    I just ended a 3-yr relationship that was long distance. The relationship didn’t fail because of the distance, but it did kind of reinforce some avoidant behaviors my ex had. When there was something urgent to talk about, I’d typically offer to drive to her (4 hours) without a second thought but she wouldn’t want me to. If we lived in the same neighborhood, it might have been harder for her to avoid things. That being said, if someone doesn’t want to connect, being 3 miles away is no different than being 3000 miles away.

    With the kind of distance you’re talking about, you can’t just jump in the car when needed. You would BOTH have to really want to work at this. I doubt it could succeed if only one person is trying to hold it together. I think lots of communication (phone, skype etc.), specific plans for when you’ll  get together, specific conversations around the area of trust, and a plan for when and how to convert the long distance to no distance would be wise.

    So yes, my opinion is that they CAN work, and if you’re really into this guy, consider exploring how you two might go forward.

    #141419
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear heartbrokengurl:

    The long distance may be good for a heart that has been broken recently (your name, here); the distance being safer for you, at this point. It may very well work out nicely. Take it as easy as you can, be as calm as you can be and post with updates anytime, if you’d like.

    anita

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