I have a grown, male cousin whom I love dearly even though he is a bit of an emotional vampire. He is going through a divorce and spends money unwisely. He is on a perpetual emotional rollercoaster and cries too much. He is now wanting to get a job at my husbands’ company, and move close by! He is emotionally immature and will fail in this move.
I believe I’ve made it clear he’ll not be staying in our home….ever, but I don’t think he takes me seriously.
He and his soon-to-be-ex-wife lost their home a few years ago due to no budgeting and frivolous spending. They moved into her mothers in CA. He’s a super nice guy and has a good work ethic, but drinks too much and is such a wimp. I used to find this endearing as his feminine side. Not anymore. Anyhow, he was tossed out and now lives with his retired father in a one bedroom apartment, which my uncle resents. He plans to apply at my husbands company and move here to the Houston area! He’ll probably take a lousy job just to get here. I love him so much but will not allow my cousin to screw with my marriage/home life. He was here for Thanksgiving, I paid for half of his flight, and I asked some hard questions such as “Have you created a budget?”, and he has not. He agreed his announcement of moving here may have been premature, but plans to work this out upon returning home. I don’t want to lose him, but I love my husband more than my cousin and will do almost anything to see that my marriage stays happy and secure. Help!