So, this is a long story but if your interested then I appreciate your time reading it, and I would love some advice.

I dated my ex boyfriend for 1 year and 9 months. In that time it was amazing, and he was my best friend. We fell in love quickly or what I thought was love, and I had dreams of our future together. But I broke up with him 3 months ago, because he got complacent and lazy and he didn’t want to have life goals or move out of his parents house at the age of 23.

Afterwards I did get needy though and grew depressed and I missed him a lot. I wanted him to fight to win me back but he just wasnt interested. For the two weeks after we broke up though we texted, and he said he did miss me and miss us and he was emotionally distraught, couldn’t eat or sleep properly. So I felt like he was communicating to me that he still loved me, he even came over to my house that I invited him over to, to talk. All we did was hug before he left, and he wished me well, but even then after that, he went no contact with me, and said it was too hard talking to me.

Then I find that hes liked a skanky girls photo on Facebook and I get angry at him over text, and he says ‘The emptiness speaks for itself because you were wholesome’, and sends me some cryptic poem text about having a huge void in his life now. So I am so confused by now. But then it gets worse, we fight a little back and forth being blunt with eachother after and I call it quits, telling him I have to let him go and he agrees. But then a few weeks later I see him out with that girl who’s photo he liked on Facebook.

I get really angry and confrontational, because its only been 2 months since we broke up from a really long term relationship. And he acts defensive and threatens to throw my stuff still left at his house onto the highway. Thats when I just broke, I messaged his ex gfs to dig up the dirt on him. The one just before me was treated really badly. He told me he never slept with her and kept up that lie our entire relationship, and now I have to hear from her that they did and just when he and I started dating, she thought she was pregnant and tried to communicate this to him and he blocked her out, and didnt even want to deal with it( because he basically wanted to be with me).She had to go to the doctors by herself at the age of 18 to find out she wasnt. Also another ex from years ago was actually raped by some stalker who broke into her house, and it just so happened that my ex was meant to go over that day to see her, so thats how come he knows about it. But on the very first day he and I met officially for coffee, he brought up the story about how his ex was raped (which was true) but then lied and said she committed suicide by overdosing ( such a lie!). I asked him about it more and more as we dated but he continually just tried to shrug it off, until he finally admitted 6 months in that he lied and she was still alive. I still dont know why he would lie about that!

So I messaged this girl and told her his lies and she was devastated and I was really annoyed and just beside myself angry at him by this point. In fact in the last 3 months ive gone to counselling, had anti depressents, thought about suicide even, and lost 8 kgs all due to his manipulative ways. Thinking back I alsoeven hated myself because I gave my virginity to him, and now that Iknow he lied about sleeping with his ex, it makes me feel used.

I have contacted him since through email, saying he should be ashamed of himself because I know all his lies now. He hasnt responded in over a week, but he has contacted the ex before me and apologised for treating her badly, which really isnt even believable. He was doing it only to clear his conscience. So anyway I guess I half wanted to vent my situation to strangers/ half wanted advice on how to deal with it. I dont have romantic feelings anymore, I just feel betrayed. I want to move on and find someone better in future, and leave this mess behind. I just want to know if all this pain is worth it. Will karma come around, and will people ever truly be remorseful for his horrible actions. I really dont know what i would do if i saw him again, I would feel a lot of hatred and hurt probably, and my instinct would be to claw his eyes out, but I will refrain…hopefully.I’m just glad i have a lot of support from family, friends and even these ex gfs who know his true character. Too bad his mum covers up all his mistakes so he cant own up to anything properly

• This topic was modified 8 years, 3 months ago by Kelly.