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  • June 29, 2021 at 10:11 am #382125
    Complexity
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    So I met someone online 2.5 months back. We chatted for a bit online for about a month until he asked me out. So we met (you can say that was our first date). We met the following week and the following. We met once a week for five weeks and kept in touch via text in between. Our texts were not too much. It was more like 3-4 texts per day or sometimes just one text.

    I think I am a little confused. His work requires a lot of his time, and his schedule is sometimes crazy busy, even on the weekends. He takes hours to respond to my text. Sometimes, he won’t even respond for the whole day until nighttime or the following evening (like two days). Is this normal? When he reply, he doesn’t apologize and acts like nothing is wrong. I am new to meeting someone online, and I don’t know if this is normal or a red flag.

    He seems to be interested when we meet in person. We clicked instantly, leading us to 5 dates already, but he is sometimes off/cold through text. I’m not sure now if I should continue seeing him or stop talking to him.

     

    Thank you

    confused_a

    June 29, 2021 at 11:43 am #382138
    Anonymous
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    Dear Complexity:

    “He takes hours to respond to my text. Sometimes, he won’t even respond for the whole day until nighttime or the following evening (like two days). Is this normal? When he reply, he doesn’t apologize and acts like nothing is wrong”- maybe he hates texting, which is abnormal when it comes to younger people. Not a bad kind of abnormal, (can be a good kind of abnormal as in not driving and texting!)

    Did you bring the topic up to him, so to find out what goes through his mind in regard to texting?

    anita

    June 29, 2021 at 1:07 pm #382146
    Complexity
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    Thank you, Anita. I did not bring it up as I think we are still pretty new? I tell myself maybe he is too busy or maybe he doesn’t want to show he’s too interested.

     

    June 29, 2021 at 1:16 pm #382149
    Anonymous
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    Dear Complexity:

    You are welcome. I think that it is a good idea to ask him.

    I suggest that when asking him (if you do), you don’t express to him at the same time that you are hurt by him not responding to your texts earlier than he does, or that he is wrong and guilty. Instead ask neutrally and curiously, so that you can have information you didn’t have before.

    The more information you have- the less confused you will be, and the less complex things will seem, and you will not have to make assumptions which may or may not be true.

    If you ask him, let me know what he says, or otherwise post again anytime.

    anita

    June 29, 2021 at 5:27 pm #382165
    Complexity
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    Thank you Anita!

    June 29, 2021 at 6:04 pm #382167
    Anonymous
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    You are welcome, Complexity. Until next time you post, take care of yourself!

    anita

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