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  • August 26, 2017 at 7:23 pm #165790
    Nez
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    I’m in a casual relationship with someone that i care about(For almost two years).Other party knows that i have always had feeling for him.He doesn’t really talk to anyone.He put too much in his past relationships and says that he can’t go there again.I don’t know how i got here.I know casual relationships are suppose to be basic.We’ve always cuddled with each other.But, when i’m sad at school he offers to cuddle later in his car and we do.He hold me close.Recently, when we cuddled he laid his cheek on mine while spooning until he fell asleep.Is this normal?

    August 27, 2017 at 5:34 am #165808
    Anonymous
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    Dear Nez:

    It is normal to need to be touched, held. Yes, it is normal. It is a normal need we are born with. It calms people, that is probably why he fell asleep when in close bodily contact with you: it calmed him.

    Are you feeling comfortable with the cuddling/ spooning and the nature of this relationship otherwise?

    anita

     

    August 27, 2017 at 6:48 am #165826
    Eliana
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    Hi Nez,

    I don’t have too much to go on with your post, but from what I understand, you are currently in a relationship, and cuddling with someone else, yet view it as “casual”. I am wondering why you don’t want to cuddle with your significant other and choose this man instead. I think if I were the significant other and I saw my boyfriends head in another woman’s lap, I would feel betrayed. No, this is not casual. Any kind of touching is not casual. I do think you need to re-evaluate your current relationship, and find out what is making you unhappy to make you want to cuddle with another man. Just some thoughts.

    September 10, 2025 at 9:03 pm #449633
    Theodore Riggs
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    @bloodmoney: Yes, it’s normal — cuddling, cheek contact, and falling asleep together show comfort and emotional closeness, even if he isn’t ready for a deeper relationship.

    September 11, 2025 at 5:19 am #449652
    Roberta
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    Dear Nez
    I find it helps to distinguish between hugs & cuddles.
    Hugs can in general be short or long to share happiness & also to console to be shared with loved ones & strangers of both sexes.
    For me cuddles have a more intimate nature & can lead to more intimate encounter of a sexual nature.
    Then there is something inbetween where you are totally comfortable together where I think of the person as a brother & he thinks of me as a sister & are happy to snuggle up & watch a movie together. When either of us are in a relationship with others we just have a quick hug as a greeting or farewell & still call each other bro & sis. We are quite a huggy group.

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