Dear Violet:
Tips about keeping the physical at bay: meet men in a public place, like a coffee shop, get there in your car and meet them there. Don’t go to his place after the date and don’t have him go to your place. Use the date to get to know him, by asking questions, answering his questions (not interrogation style).
Tell the man on the first date (or before meeting) that you want to get to know him before you consider getting physically intimate. Give him a time line: two months with an extension option. If he puts pressure on you before the two months are over, remind him of the date. If he persists, stop dating him. IF he pressures you after the two months, tell him you will not be pressured. If he continues, stop dating him.
Date as many men as possible this way so that you have a chance that someone will survive the process, and that someone would be a man worthy of your time, your love, your life.
anita