Dear Sebastiaan,

Yes you have posted in the right thread (Share your Truth) since in reality there shouldn’t be any category for anything because everyone is always ‘Sharing their own Truth’.

I am not someone from the medical arena but I do know about this issue based on readings and hearing about it from people. So would respond to you based on the same.

Erection problems are usually termed as Impotence or Erectile Dysfunction (ED).
When men become sexually aroused, hormones, muscles, nerves, and blood vessels all work with one another to create an erection. Nerve signals are sent from the brain to the penis. This, in turn, allows blood to flow to the tissue in the penis. Once the blood fills the penis and an erection is achieved, the erection is then maintained.
When someone suffers from ED, the blood that should flow into the penis and causes it to become erect, does not flow with the amount it should flow. This amount of blood flow is interrupted by either a physical or psychological condition or a combination of the two…more on these below.

Physical reasons–
Physical health conditions like diabetes, heart issues or taking certain types of medications do affect in ways further causing ED.
But after you mentioning your age I do not consider this to be the case with you. You will need to find out if you do have any.

Psychological reasons–
This problem to the area between the legs (reproductive organ) is usually due to a problem between the ears (brain, mind)
Issues in the head are due to anxiety, insecurity, nervousness, etc.

It could be either General anxiety that you have in your day to day life with other daily activities OR it could be even Performance anxiety (anxiety either to perform the best or that I am not performing the best or that she should feel a particular way about my performance).

“I already stopped fapping and watching porn “
“i was kinda addicted, maybe once or twice a day”
I have read medical practitioners in this area of expertise suggest that the male hormones keep on generating the semen (spermatic fluid) within the testicles. So if you suppress the urge for its outflow then it is going to find its own outlet through nocturnal emissions or wet dreams (a wet dream is when ejaculation occurs while you’re asleep). Or even when you are simply sitting you can sense a small amount of the fluid coming out.
Hence doctors suggest you to find its outlet through masturbation but only when you are sexually excited or when you feel the sexual tension caused due to this constant generation of the spermatic fluid. It doesn’t sound to be harmful if it is not made into a habit.

“and i’m doubting to buy viagra”
If you do this then do it with the awareness of its effects along with its side-effects.
I would recommend some natural foods, nuts and fruits that assist in this matter. Look up on the web for natural remedies on this.

Also it requires changes in lifestyle like –
-stopping tobacco use
-drinking less alcohol
-getting plenty of rest
-eating a healthy diet
-exercising regularly
-reducing stress and anxiety

If ED is caused by a lack of blood flow then circulatory health becomes key in prevention. A common way to improve blood flow is through exercise.
Some cardio-based exercises include: running, biking, swimming, and aerobics or even brisk walking.

Erectile Dysfunction is affected by the mind which in turn affects the mind and thus worsens the problem due to this cyclic loop.
So it is not just physical health that you need to focus on, but mental health too.
Look out for simple relaxation techniques. Also, there are lots of techniques on the web to have proper blood circulation in the brain and to the entire body. You also need to make yourself mentally strong in other usual activities of the day.

Occasional ED isn’t uncommon.
If doing the mind relaxation exercises, and the techniques to increases the blood circulation, and the changes in your lifestyle don’t reduce your symptoms and if you develop erection problems that get worse over time, then it is definitely time to contact your doctor. Yes you mentioned you do not want to go to the doctor, but this is again anxiety. An experienced doctor specialized for this condition is there to help you in this matter. Take it that way. He will then find the root cause of your underlying condition – be it physical or psychological.

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Whatever it may be, don’t allow yourself to think that you have a major problem, and that you need to perform well the next time you meet and also end up doing too much of searching on the web.
Going with the flow of the moment is the best thing to do. Don’t keep yourself waiting to meet her, neither suppress your desires with her (of course with her consent).

Don’t try to make it so “hard” to understand all of the above.

This is all more usage of the mind. Just live spontaneously and allow yourself to enjoy those moments.

With some physical activity and learning to relaxing yourself will help you get rid of all this.

Best wishes,
~VJ

A lot have this problem. Just different things trigger it. Masturbation does not cause problems with erection. Many guys have trouble getting or maintaining an erection at some point in their lives. Often, it’s caused by performance anxiety. I had the same problem before. So happy ? I found in Google ‘Edstop247’ and got some magic help. Performance anxiety is the fear of being unable to please a partner. This anxiety can actually cause changes in the body that prevent a guy from getting or maintaining an erection.