It’s been 2 months since I last spoke to my ex. I am not over him and still have feeling for him. I’ve been posting on this site and have gotten a lot of great advice. Today I was startled by a text from him. It stated “I hope you’re doing good, going to your meetings, staying away from shit and getting stronger.” I don’t know how to respond and haven’t. I am praying to God and the Holy Spirit for guidance. I think it’s a just a simple “hope you’re good” and that’s it, I can be thankful for that. I know contacting him right now will only make things harder for me.
It’s so weird how timing is in the world. After I sat and thought about my ex making contact the next night a guy who I play vball with gave me his number. It was weird to me how is transpired. I knew the guy was from an area so I mentioned a good place to go hiking. He took it as an invite, I only meant it as to let him know. Now he wants to go there together. I know I am not ready to date, however wouldn’t mind a friend. How do I be clear about this as I don’t want to give the relationship a title? As far as the ex my gut was to respond via snail mail with a thank you note.
Going hiking isn’t a marriage proposal. 🙂 If it comes up, or if he’s giving signals like he wants to do something more than you want to, perhaps that would be a good time to put up boundaries. Until then, maybe you could just relax, go hiking, see nature. Let the steps unfold, no need to push or pull at them. 🙂