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April 4, 2014 at 11:28 am #54190Rose LynnParticipant
I’m an architect, it wasn’t really like, a ‘true calling’ but I grew to appreciate what architects could do and in the end, grew to appreciate what I do as well.
Having been working for 6 years now, I feel like my soul dies a little each day. We, common architects joke about how architect is the most overrated profession in the world. It is both flattering and annoying at the same time how people would react every time I tell them I’m an architect. It has been romanticized too much in the media but truth is, very little do we get to design for the sake of designing. Especially in this day and age where everything is measured by profitability, nobody has a vision anymore, everybody just wants to make money, pushing art and creativity aside. I can’t tell you how many times I design something only to end up with a big fat boxy building.
And then there are the people. Of all the people I’ve met since I’ve been working, 90% of them are incompetent. And more frustratingly, they are mostly more senior than me. There’s nothing worse than having to work under someone incompetent, you can’t trust them, the teamwork suffers, the project suffers. It’s bad feeling all around. I also hate it when they’re the insecure type and they’re masking it with all the big talk and know-it-all bullshit. This type usually doesn’t listen to reason and would go extremely defensive when posed with questions.
I’m just baffled as to how they are able to rise to their position in the first place. Shouldn’t there be some standards? Just because the fella has been around for eternity doesn’t mean you are obligated to give him the job. I’m just mad about this.
April 5, 2014 at 6:53 am #54290SmigletonParticipantI hear you, Rose Lynn.
I tried not to let it get me down as best I could, and only sometimes could I successfully keep from feeling like “my soul dies a little bit each day.” It seems that there is something horribly wrong with the corporate world today. I am unable to work at places like that anymore (and may starve as a result) as the ick of it has become just too much for my broken and beaten little self to put up with.
Hang in there. Perhaps you could find something outside of work to bring more joy into your life. I’ll be rooting for you.
April 5, 2014 at 10:29 am #54299Rose LynnParticipantThanks, Smiggleton.
I’ve tried telling myself to just do as what clients / bosses say, just stop fighting, stop thinking as long as the money keeps coming in, I thought my life would be easier that way but while it may save me from a confrontation or two, it also exactly what makes my soul dies a little bit each day.
And then there are building codes that started off as a way for the government to provide better standard and safety for its people, but has now become more of a ridiculous set of rules for them to avoid lawsuits.
Everywhere now where I live, beautiful cobblestone pathway are being replaced by smooth asphalt because some idiots are suing the government because they fell while jogging there. Whatever happens to people taking responsibility for their own lives?
Thanks for rooting for me, I’ll carry your words to heart.
April 5, 2014 at 3:18 pm #54309HabitualLinecrosserParticipant“Incompetent know-it-all?” Wow! So, how do you really feel? And you’ve conveyed your thoughts to this individual, what did this person say? *crickets* Clearly, your team laid out a blue print for everyone to understand and follow. Including any newbie who decides to volunteer to work on your boxy project. Sounds like this unreasonable blind senior architect may need a lesson in reading cryptic braille. Also, it sounds like this senior citizen has a horrible hearing problem, Perhaps, they should step down and chill and allow nature take it course. Who knows. If everyone isn’t on the same page your boxy project is going to be just that … One big old box., Sorry this happened to you. Hopefully, things will work out.
Namaste ye mad one.
April 6, 2014 at 4:56 am #54346SweetiepieParticipantI absolutely relate to you. I’m in the legal profession and am so disillusioned with how crooked and corrupt this profession is, like yours its portrayed as glamorous, but is anything but that. I have seen so much dishonestly and back-stabbing, and professional ethics and respect is a rarity, if they actually exist at all. Its all about money, not upholding the law, and people in the profession seem to think that as long as something is done in the name of business and money-making, it justifies treating other people like absolute crap and walking right over them.
Perhaps some of us are just not made for the dog-eats-dog, money chasing life that is the corporate world. I’m realizing that for myself, and like you, every day in the profession seems to sap my soul, and I’m looking at getting out of it.
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April 6, 2014 at 11:04 am #54371Rose LynnParticipantHi Sweetiepie, so glad to learn I’m not alone in this boat. Looking for ways to abandon ship someday. Sometimes I wonder how do others make it in today’s corporate world, and will it ever change? I hope you can find your way out, I hope I can find mine, too. I just wanna live my life peacefully, happily, with my belief in humanity still intact.
April 6, 2014 at 6:12 pm #54385Bee 1961ParticipantThank you for sharing your story. I have experienced the same in my career. I have been a software architect for 33 years. I have changed jobs many times thinking and hoping it would be different. I haven’t found a company that provides an environment that encourages creativity or quality. All companies I have worked for have focused on money and the people focus on power/titles. Recently I took a big cut in pay for a job to do technical training. I enjoy teaching others. I took the job because I thought it would be fun and less stress. The company said “What crisis can happen in training?”. I was sold. It took me 4 months to realize that they were the same as all the other companies – all they wanted was money. They didn’t care about the quality of the training that was provided to client. The next sale was always the focus. I created 15 new courses for them in 3 months, but there was no thanks for all the additional effort I put in to create high quality training courses, but every week a spreadsheet was sent out to everyone in the company on how all the trainers measured up to their quota (in training hours) – how much money they brought into the company that week. No long-term vision.
I am the sole provider for my family, so I have to keep working. It is getting harder and harder to tolerate an environment where people are focused on themselves and money. I want to be productive, add-value, and help others.
Sorry for rambling about my own situation. I wish I had a solution. You are not alone!
April 6, 2014 at 7:37 pm #54390AlParticipantRose Lynn,
Indeed, the world is governed by a corporate mentality. It is quite sad. And yet, you and all the members who have shown relation should rejoice for you are awakened beings who are able to see what is of real value. As for advice, I solemnly direct others to religions, however, because I have not found a secular way to apply ‘finding balance’ then I find I have little choice therefore please do not be offended that I am guiding you to new/other faiths should you be of another one.
The Buddhist’s teaching of ‘The Middle Way’ may be of the best help to you. With practice (as all tasks require), it will give you the tools to stabilize your thoughts and beliefs and bring about harmony. Taoism may also be of great help as it also deals with how to live in the ‘middle’ though I must warn that it can be at first difficult to comprehend without the aid of knowledgeable and capable teachers and also that they are very few here in the West (if this is where you live).
I hope this helps.
Namaste,
Al
April 7, 2014 at 9:28 pm #54459Rose LynnParticipantHi Beth,
Please accept a hug from me, I can’t even begin to imagine feeling this way for 33 years. I don’t have the same pressure as you do because I don’t have a family to provide for, however I do have other things that make me feel like I have the odds stacked against me. I am an expat so to change jobs is not as easy for me and there have been strong anti-foreigner sentiments in the past few years that make me feel like a moving target every day. And even though I’m an introvert, living in a foreign land can be very lonely at times.
From your story, I think the size of the company, the type of job you have, and the amount of income you earn only have negligible effect on your happiness. We’ve all heard about people who took a big pay cut to work at a “niche” job and found happiness but I think that’s not always the case, as evident in your story. I think it’s ultimately something entirely detached from physical provisions and more to do with how we connect on metaphysical level with our job, colleagues, and surroundings.
I sincerely wish you’ll find your way out someday =)
April 8, 2014 at 2:15 am #54465Rose LynnParticipantHi Al,
Thank you for your suggestion. I am not offended, in fact I have always been intrigued to learn about Buddhist’s teachings. A little background : I have consciously distanced myself from any organized religions as (IMHO) they’ve been infiltrated by too much politics and agenda. I was brought up Catholic but I’ve found its teachings to be irrelevant (no offense to anyone) to my life, therefore I abandoned it. I do still pray, however. Not to Jesus or anyone, but I do still take time every night to have a quiet time, to reflect, to have a dialogue with my inner self.
Regarding Buddhism, I actually work in Asia now, in a little country that is very wealthy but its citizens are known as the unhappiest people in the world (not gonna say which but a simple googling will tell you). Buddhist temples are everywhere. The thing is, there are so many of them and I was told they’re not all the same. Also, most of the Buddhism here are intertwined with certain culture (Chinese, Thai, Burmese, etc. whereby they burn paper money and offerings, etc.) that it doesn’t feel universal enough to be applicable to my life. Simply put, I don’t know where to begin.
Also, is it possible to learn just the teachings without (sorry, I don’t know the appropriate term) ‘adopting’ the religion? I am still uncomfortable to be associated with any religion.
Thanks.
April 8, 2014 at 6:20 am #54475SmigletonParticipantHi again Rose Lynn,
Thank you for your kind words. Yes. Of course it is possible to learn and even to practice wisdom teachings without labeling yourself as anything. Just go for it. There are many wonderful study tools available on the net, including right here on this web site.
Many of the teachings you are very likely already aware of. It is just hard these days to reconcile any wisdom teachings with the “rat race” that our work environments have become due to extreme greed at the top end of the economic gestalt. I have found for myself that in fact, there just is not a way to reconcile them at all. That means that I must either stop working for companies that hurt others or the environment for their own profit (which is what I have done) or somehow compartmentalize my work life as something that I only do under pressure for my survival (to buy my room and board and such) but that my real life is actually against what I believe has become bad for myself and others.
Until we change the intentions of our workplaces out of the profit above all else mentality, I am afraid we must learn to live in an uncomfortable kind of hypocrisy. To spend the majority of our waking lives doing something that is counter to what all wisdom teachings point to is the reality that we are living today.
You are not your job. You are something much bigger than that. Farmers are not the weeds that strangle their crops, and you are not the regulations that strangle creativity in your work.
What if you used each of the instances of incompetence to remind you of a wisdom teaching? So, when some know-it-all makes a particularly obnoxious remark, you could use it to remind yourself of this conversation and how very different real life is than whatever he/she is pushing. It might just take some of the sting of it out.
Many blessings,
Smigs
April 9, 2014 at 6:02 pm #54570AlParticipantRose Lynn,
It is entirely possible to learn the teachings of any religion without committing/converting to them. In the end, all preach love and love does not need us to be of a certain religion in order to find/know/share it.
As for religions in general, it is quite understandable to feel overwhelmed and lost since each have produced so many denominations. And, in honesty, we will never know what religion/teachings we will resonate with most until we experience them first hand. Hence I advise that you try a little bit of everything. In the end, even if you do not settle on one, you will have gained a little from each and therefore come out a better person already. Also, out of convenience, I would say simply stick with the initial religions themselves, meaning no thrice-branched denomination. And please, take your time on it. Important things should be done with care. Life needs not us rush but only experience.
I hope this has helped. If not, we’ll be here.
Al
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