So, this is a weird situation. I used to like this guy who is presently dating another batch-mate with whom I was on good terms till a few days back. Since college is going to end, we recently had our farewell party with almost everybody in attendance. There this guy and I got talking and he kept hanging out with me and a couple of other friends of mine and I sort of by-the-by blurted out about my feelings for him. I had no prior intentions of doing so, however, in that moment, I just felt like telling him since it’s now the end and it was just an innocent crush. I expected nothing out of it. He took it very sportingly and I made him promise that he would keep it to himself. And even after this, he kept hanging out with us, got us drinks and when his girlfriend came to call him for a dance (which she did, about thrice), he didn’t go. Next morning, amidst the heavy hangover, everyone and everything seemed fine. However, since a couple of days, his girlfriend, with whom I was on good terms earlier, started behaving in an odd fashion with me. She would look through me and barely responded to my greetings. I started getting the hunch that the guy probably did spill the beans about that evening to her. Yesterday, this girl, confronted my friend (who also happens to be her roommate) about that evening and it turns out that the guy added a whole lot of exaggerations to the story, somehow making it seem like I desperately wanted to date him and that my friends were trying to facilitate the same, all of which are white lies. The two of them had a fight, and I feel miserable about the whole episode.

It was just an innocent confession and nothing else, and the incident took place in the presence of four other friends of mine and we all laughed and joked about it. And that was probably just 1% of the conversation. We spoke about a whole host of things, from getting jobs after graduation to feminism. It was an absolutely healthy interaction and there wasn’t even flirting involved. I feel extremely humiliated because this guy seems to be telling all sorts of lies about this to his girlfriend, who also evidently thinks ill of me now. I trusted him with my feelings and thought he would respect them. On the contrary, he has just cooked up some nonsense and has probably told his girl about my desperation and how despite everything he (obviously) isn’t interested in me. I did not confess about my feelings with the intention of jeopardising his relationship, neither do I want to get involved with him. I have another month before college ends, and I hate this feeling of hostility from those two and their cohorts. I can’t enter the dining hall because I feel everybody’s stares on me like I’m some sort of criminal (maybe it’s all in my head, I don’t know) and I know as a matter of fact that there is a group that is saying all sorts of nasty things about me (I have previously heard them speak of people they dislike and it was disgusting). What have I done to deserve this? I have been one of the most low-profile people in college and now I am caught in this mess. I feel disgusted and humiliated and don’t know how to deal with this!