Rennie,

I’m so sorry to hear this, and I totally understand. I’m so full of anger with my own situation that I want to destroy them both. I get emails from her weekly adding to my misery. She defends him, tells me how much better he is than me. She saw him while I’m covering all her bills, paying for everything, loving her from my heart. So, I understand your anger. I sent nasty text messages to him, I call him a reptile in my blog, I called his work. As I write this, my anger grows.

Yesterday, a friend told me that her spirituality guides her to do the right thing even in the face of someone doing wrong to her. She says she tries to create good karma by doing this. It resonated with me.

When she emailed me yesterday, I did not respond with anger. I just asked that our business be concluded so that I could move on. I told her I welcomed the new pain this email caused and that I would grow from it.

I’m doing my best to not let my anger break down my dignity and my spirituality. It’s incredibly hard. It hurts. I feel anger, humiliation, fooled, taken advantage of. I’m trying to focus on the fact that it wasn’t me who did anything wrong. It was them. They’ll pay for it when then stand in front of their maker. So, think of your children, and your dignity and spirituality.

I hope this helps, and I send much compassion your way! I know it will get better for us.

best,

Rahul