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November 19, 2013 at 12:12 pm #45497Tamanna.MParticipant
Hello,
first of all I thank all those who r taking z pain to read my message.since 3 years I’ve been taking a course. There r many students there, both boys n girls but we never talked since the boys stayed with boys and girls talked to girls.
one day I went there early with a close friend who used to b more than a sister to me. some boys were sitting behind us and I turned at z back n started talking to them. as such we became great friends. then my so- called sister also talked to them but she wasn’t so close to them as I was. therefore she stayed online till late night to chat with them, she met them frequently so that they become closer to her than to me.
it consisted of a group of 6 boys n we, the 2 girls. every time I used to ask them for something they refused but always agreed wen my friend asked them to do. it hurts a lot. they I used to feel heartbroken.
there was a guy in the group I fell for but z girl said she had a crush for him. I guess z boy also liked her so I left them alone. then I found another one cute to whom nearly everyday we used to text each other but now she’s hugging him in photos.
yesterday was z last day of the course
today in every plans, parties am excluded. since they excluded me, she took another girl in z group n today no one remembers me. I spend hours crying coz i considered her my sister n z guys as my great friends. i miss them….plzzz help me get over this…. 🙁November 19, 2013 at 12:55 pm #45499Chris EllisParticipantHi Tamanna,
I’m sorry to say it sounds like the girl you thought was your friend was never really a friend at all. if everyone in the group is excluding you, then it doesn’t sound like they are friends either. Friends just don’t do that to each other. They don’t intentionally set out to hurt someone they care about. And they stand up for you if someone is talking you down. Potential new friends are everywhere. If you are in school, go up to someone sitting alone and see if you can start a conversation. There are so many people out there who are starved for companionship, you don’t need “friends” who deliberately hurt you. If you are shy about talking to some one new, find something you like about that person and mention it (“I like your earrings” or “Hey I’ve read that book too, what do you think of it?” Or even “Those shoes are AWESOME!”). I’ll bet if you practice this little trick you will be surrounded by people who care about you!
Good luck!
XO ChrisNovember 19, 2013 at 10:29 pm #45515Tamanna.MParticipantThank you very much for the reply Chris. 🙂
am not at all shy to talk to new people, I actually love talking to new people n increase my number of friends…
The problem is that I loved them so much that am unable to digest the fact that they r doing this to me. am unable to forget them n they are always trying especially the girl trying to do certain things that indirectly hurt me. She intentionally tries to hurt me but am unable to ignore her.
every time these bad thoughts are haunting my mind… :'(
I wonder how people can be so bad.November 20, 2013 at 12:06 pm #45541Chris EllisParticipantHi Tamanna,
You are welcome!
I understand that it is difficult. Many people in life do not have the correct information about how to handle things that come up in lie. For that reason, it is difficult when one person goes out of their way to poison the minds of people against another person.
One thing that you can do is talk to one of the people in the group who might be willing to talk to you and ask him honestly what this girl is saying about you. Chances are that she has told you things that are not nice about him as well. If that is the case, tell him what this girl has been saying about him. Make sure you only tell him true facts and not any embellishment. If she is doing this this and you make the truth known, and if the guy you are talking to is a positive person he will not listen to this other girl any more. Nobody likes to be lied to and when they find out, the shun the source of the lies.
Once you have cleared the air with the one person, go onto the next and ask him what this girl has been saying about you and clear the air there too. If these people are decent, kind people, they will realize that they have been lied to and that this other girl is the source of those harmful lies.
If no one agrees to talk to you or refuse to clear the air with you, it is a sign that they are not the type of people you should be around. It would be a sign that they deal in lies themselves and it is ok with them. People like that, you trust at your peril because the way you are feeling now, you will feel again when they betray you later.
I hope this helps you. Good luck!
XO ChrisNovember 20, 2013 at 10:35 pm #45573Tamanna.MParticipantThank you dear…
In fact ur right
I talked to one of the boys days before, he also said he hates her because she wants to take my place in the group but now i heard that he is having a crush on her. Clearly i can see that they have decent looks but they r liars.in reality i have pimples n i dont like to do make ups to attract people but she does it and wears indecent clothes etc, i guess they r attracted to these.
Since i dont want these fings, i just wanted friends who love me and care for me, am breaking up with them, coz since months ive been going through this pain n they do not understand pains because they have all that they want, they come from rich families and am not like them.So my place is somewhere else and not with their company because they do not deserve my love n friendship.
Thank you loads dear, because i had zis pain since long n no one was there for me but wen i posted my problem here in z same day i was helped, this page is awesome… 🙂
November 21, 2013 at 7:10 am #45578Chris EllisParticipantYou are so welcome Tamanna! I ma so glad I was able to help you. I think you have made the right decision. You have so much greatness to give to the world and you will find people who see that greatness and love you for who you are. Meanwhile look for greatness in them and you will help them too. Good luck! :)!
XO Chris
November 21, 2013 at 7:24 am #45579Tamanna.MParticipantThank you again Chris.
You helped me to come out of that pain and to help me make the right decision 🙂in fact as I already told u I love making new friends, n I wud b grateful if we could become friends.
If you are in facebook, could u plzz send me the link of your profile…. 🙂Thank you once again….
Regards
Tamanna….November 21, 2013 at 7:29 am #45580Tamanna.MParticipantThank you again dear Chris…
You helped me to get out of zis pain n to make z right decision….:)
Love u for ur support…..in fact as I told u I love making new friends n I wud b grateful if we cud become friends..
if u r in Facebook, could u plzz send me z link of ur profile?????Thank you
Regards…
TamannaNovember 21, 2013 at 9:22 am #45587Chris EllisParticipantSure Tamanna! I would love that. You can find me at http://www.chasinglabellavita.com and I am on Facebook. You can find me here: https://www.facebook.com/chris.ellis.3720 I ll. I will look for you!
XO Chris -
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