At age 58 I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m not very likable. I’m very blessed to have been married to a man who has been devoted to me and has loved me for 35 years.  We have a 19 yr old daughter who makes us both very proud. The three of us have a really tight bond and all get along well.  It’s a house of love.  All good.  Now the bad. I have a history of broken friendships over my lifetime.   Almost all of my friendships have ended on bad terms.  Some friendships last for a few months.  Some for 2-3 years. But they all end over a conflict of some sort.  I had a fall out with my husband’s family and his mother and my 2 sister-in-laws and 2 nieces all turned against me.  This was over a misunderstanding where they believed I did something malicious against the mother.  But it was untrue.  I tried to convince them of my innocence but they didn’t believe me and wouldn’t give me the benefit of the doubt.  They shunned me.  So that split the families.  It was hard.  It felt like a divorce, but my marriage survived it and my husband split with his family.  I have somewhat of a tense relationship with my siblings too.  We love each other but we don’t don’t socialize much.  I have strong political views and I’ve lost some friends on Facebook as a result.  I’m less concerned with them. I often say I belong to the “friend of the month club” because my friendships just don’t last.  It pains me to look through my photos over the years and see all these ex-friends, and ex-family members with whom I’ve ended on bad terms.  And these are irreparable relationships.  I have no desire to make amends with these people.  I am the kind of person who gives so much of myself to be a good friend.   I really am a kind person.  I get burned all the time.  My sister has a lots of long term friendships.  I think most poeple do.   I have none.  I have a few friends.  I do have a  social life.  But these are like cocktail party friends.  We don’t know each other that well.  I don’t have any “tight” friends.  I feel like I’m the only person like this.  I must be a difficult person to get along with.  I no self-confidence as a result.   It leaves me feeling sad, unlikable, and depressed.  Am I the only person like this?