First of all I would like to thanks Tiny Buddha, Tiny Buddha articles, stories are so inspirational. For almost years i was lost in my thoughts, not able to know whats actually running in mind. Tiny Buddha has lighted the dark room and guided me to think in the right direction.

I have a challenge in my life and I am seeking guidance from experts, my Tiny Buddha friends.

My challenge is about my husband.

I know my husband from last three years. After our marriage I came to know him better.
He is a simple, kind hearted person. Believes in live and let live.

He is too introvert, likes to stay in his own thoughts. Sometimes he talks to himself. He has no enthusiasm in his life. He only do the things that are essential to live.

Sometimes I feel if I leave him alone in the house he can spend years living alone.

He hardly have any friends.

Even in his office he do not have good reputation.
His team have opinion they can work better without his interference.

His parents do not trust his capabilities. He is like 12 years old boy for them.

His relatives used to make fun of him. They call him dumb.

He in the role of husband:-
I am not able to depend on him for anything in daily life.
If I ask him to help me for something and when after sometime I ask him about that thing, he simply replies I forgot to do and this behavior is repetitive.

He says that he wants big car, house, travel all over world but he do not actually do anything about it.

He only acts when fire is set on his back. There is no pro-activeness. I need to prompt him every time to do the things.

My reaction to his behavior:-
Sometimes I feel frustrated. I feel my life has taken a reverse gear.

In initial years I used to fight with him regularly but when I understood his behavior, i got to know, fights will only make our life worse.
If I will not support him he will be a broken man.

I need to get out of all these things and live a happy life with him.
My real happiness is in my husband and me. I want a happy life with him. Living a respected, confident life. Fulfilling our small dreams together.

I want to be his supporter, his friend. But some times its difficult for me too.

Sometimes my mind accepts him sometimes not.

I don’t want him to be child following my instructions. I want him to be independent, confident, dependable.

I request the experts, readers to guide me, help me. How should I behave? What I can do for him?