I’m writing this because I have a friend who has trouble very often with her “boyfriend” I put quotation marks around boyfriend because he hasn’t asked her back out for almost 2 years now, but they act like a couple. Everytime she comes to me with a problem, I give her advice and mainly tell her to leave him but she doesn’t listen. I’m running out of advice of what to say to her. So they had around 3 years together when he cheated on her with some girl from his church and she forgave him and then again he cheated on her with her bestfriend, he kissed her. He didn’t tell her but the bestfriend told her herself 2 months later. They broke up after that and had stopped talking but somehow they started talking again. Months later, they stopped talking so she met a new guy and was getting to know him around February 2016 this year. Her ex found out and was very upset and they argued even though they weren’t together for a while now. After that they began talking again but he hasn’t made it official since they broke up December 2014. Everytime he goes out she thinks he’s doing something bad and she constantly thinks he still talks to that girl from his church. She constantly checks on that girls ig, snapchat, etc. I told her to stop that because it’s not helping her. Last time they hung out he got mad bc she didn’t take her ID and they needed it to buy tickets to see a movie and he told her “I knew I should’ve stayed home” She’s always complaining that he never wants to hang out but he’s always with his friends. He’s very rude and disrespectful towards her always calling her names when they argue. Another thing he does when they argue is bring up that boy she was getting to know February of this year and try to make her feel bad about it tries to make her feel guilty when they were broken up even though he cheated on her twice before that. I tell her to not listen to him because it wasn’t cheating when they weren’t even together! Tonight she told me she just felt like crying and she deactivated her Facebook, Instagram and won’t be on snapchat for a while. I asked why and she said because one little thing her “bf” says makes her explode. I asked what he said and she said he told her he doesn’t like going out with her because when they do all she does is question him and make assumptions. She can’t seem to get over the past. I keep telling her to let him go but she just doesn’t listen. I don’t know what else to say to her I’m running out of advice. I keep repeating myself always bringing up that she doesn’t have to deal with him and can always leave him. She always says “it’s really hard we’ve been together for a long time” Please help what I could tell her to help open her eyes.