This is a continuation of my first thread “Will I ever be free of this fear of people”.

I came to the realization that what is actually the easiest but at the same time the hardest thing to do… in order to become more free… is to let people simply be people.

I’m not mad at our cat for hunting mice and birds. She’s a cat. That’s what cats do.

And I am not angry with people for… judging, blaming, arguing, hating… because it is what makes us people. It is what people do. (not only this, of course!)

I take people as they are. I accept their free will to become good or bad. I accept their love or hate.

I was afraid of confrontation in my first thread. And today I am thinking: What is the worst thing that can happen if someone lashes out at me in anger? The worst thing is that I can find out that I need more healing… and it is a good thing, isn’t it? 😊

I believe that compassion and self-compassion must be harsh, too. Because life is harsh. Suffering is harsh. But without suffering, there is no happiness.

I was very confused by my feelings when I wrote the first thread. And when people are confused, they can be easily misled. I almost thought that I was a victim… but I didn’t feel that way… so I couldn’t believe it.

I am not a victim because I don’t have enemies… I have only teachers. ❤️ 🙂 And the strictest and hardest teachers are the best ones. “He is strict and tough, but he is fair.” When people are harsh with me but their intention is good, they can help me to grow… and when people are harsh with me and their intention isn’t good, I decide to use this opportunity as a test of my learning and understanding… if I am calm and peaceful when confronted by people, I know I am stable… if I am not, I know I need to work more… And this way I grow, as well. This is my little philosophy of life.

Just as I love nature and I am at complete peace with nature, I am slowly but surely starting to understand how to be with people and be at peace… by accepting their harsh side. No mud, no lotus 🪷

🙂