I’ve been dating a guy for the past 10 weeks, one to two times per week and near daily contact (maybe three days total of not talking). *We are not in a shelter in place location and are both only seeing each other so have continued doing do*

At the 6 week mark he introduced me to a friend that we ran into at the store. After we parted ways with the friend he told me that he knew that guy for a year before he realized he was married because his wife worked abroad. He said “I could never do that. That’s why I introduced you right away because I want people to know that I’m with you and you’re with me.” In that same convo he referred to me as his girlfriend in a roundabout way. That’s the most we’ve defined the relationship but for on our third date when we said we’d tell each other if we decided to see anybody else.

Things have gotten way more intimate in our in person times together with him becoming much more vulnerable and opening up to me about his childhood, goals, etc. We’ve always had amazing conversations and what we call “solving the world’s problems” sessions. Our physical chemistry matches and he has stated that it is the best sex that he’s had (and I agree). He says that he’s just so relaxed around me and that he’s not really experienced that before with women who he has dated.

Our time spent together is getting better however our communication in between is changing from how it was at the beginning. I know this is normal because texting at that pace is not sustainable and pointless when you get to know someone better. He’s also taken to calling more which I appreciate. However at times more time goes by than it used to between messages. I know his work is crazy and he’s always up front when it’s going to be that way, but I think he always plans to maintain more contact than he can.

What I want to do is move past the ‘should” and appreciate what I do have. Just three days ago he was at my home where he hand-washed our dinner dishes, fed/watered/let my dog out without me asking and took me to the hardware store to get some things where he then proceeded to fix two items around my house for me. He told me long ago that acts of service is how he shows love, yet here I sit upset that I’ve barely heard from him in the last two days even though I know work is the culprit.

I don’t think this is a him problem, it’s a me problem and I’m wondering if anybody has advice on how they gained perspective on this type of situation. I feel needy and that’s not me. I’m wondering if it’s because my own work is slow and my normal activities that keep me busy aren’t happening?