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March 17, 2014 at 10:39 am #52881AdrianaParticipant
I met my boyfriend in a temporal job in the us, but I had to back to study in my country. Our relationship was everything I could have ever wished for but we couldn’t stay together no matter how much we wanted to. At some point I was so desperate that I talked to him about marriage, since it was the only way to keep us together (he didn’t want a long distance relationship because we wouldn’t be able to talk to each other much due to work). He said I was the first person to tell him that and that he would love to marry me but he wasn’t totally sure yet, he said that when he was, he would go to my country and propose to me. After a while of talking about this he said that he was sorry for confusing me and promising things he might not do. I spent our last days together scared to death that I may not see him ever again. Since I got here (my country) I feel like I don’t belong to this place. I feel empty and lonely, not even hanging out with my friends helps. All I want to do is go back to him and be happy like we were before he forgets about me. During the summer he works at this place that he loves and were there are a lot of girls. There’s no cell reception or wifi there so we wont be able to talk to each other then at all. This makes me so worried and jealous that I’m planning to go visit him then and stay as much as I can there. He wants me to finish college but at this point I don’t really have any motivation to do so. I keep asking myself, why can’t I ever keep the one I love? This time it wasn’t that we wanted to break up or that we had problems, it’s something we don’t have control of, distance and I guess the law. I even considered going back there on my own (I saved money for that) with a tourist visa and just work illegally to support myself. I seriously would do anything and everything for this guy. I truly believe that love is worth fighting for. For me it’s the most important thing in life. I was thinking about leaving college after this semester ends and just go back there with him. I know he wants us together to, but he is worried that my future is ruined (in some way because of him) since he left college as well. The only thing that is stopping me from doing this is that he may hate me if I did that to myself even though I only do it to be happy. The last time we talked he told me “I think the right time will reveal itself when the time is right.” when I mentioned seeing each other again. He still tells me that he misses me and that he loves me but that makes me confused and wonder why we are not together. I just need help figuring this out, could this work out in some way? Will he still feel the same way months from now? Thank you.
March 17, 2014 at 10:52 am #52885ArchieParticipantHello. You really seem stressed about your future. But the thing is, it is our present that creates the foundation of our future. Your boyfriend knows it better because he didn’t get the chances that you have in front of you. You plan to give up everything for your love. But what if the future holds something that might make everything that you want to stake appear meaningless? Wouldn’t it be better to suffer a little emotional hardship today that to face a broken self in future. You should really complete your education so as to secure yourself with options. And if this guy loves you truly, he will wait for you.
March 17, 2014 at 2:57 pm #52911AdrianaParticipantHi Archie, thanks for your reply. I understand what you say but how can I stop feeling like this? It’s so hard for me to concentrate in anything else that doesn’t involve him these days. I’m trying really hard but I feel so sad and lonely, I can’t. Would you please tell me how I can do this? Thank you.
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