Hi
I feel your pain.. I have been in Usa about 7 yrs ago and still dont have many close frends.. I feel like something is wrong with me.. I value friendships and always look for deeper connections… Dont just need people for party and hangout but someone with whom i can share myself and also connect to some level..Its so hard to find like minded ppl..I find ppl but they dont stay forever or already have group of frends and just drift and some frends I am close with are in diff city or country… Its been years and i still dont feel like home

I would say just keep trying…

Penny,

As an enthusiastic (domestic & international) traveler myself along with being an immigrant to two different countries (not being of origin of either), I can understand how you can feel secluded and even discriminated against.

In my own attempts at breaking barriers, I often inquire about the culture and customs of the other party. However, I do so not as a facade to get closer but because I truly do love learning about the many different societies on our planet. There are many countries whom have a very long and rich past and therefore a people who share a great pride in it. Sometimes, these people become more open when you show interest in their past and present lifestyles. It shows you care and that you are not just ‘another ignorant foreigner’. This may be an unfair label but sadly true.

This method has proven effective for me. I am unsure if it will work for you but trying will definitely not work. Also, it has to be understood and accepted that there are individuals who just can’t see past the physical. In these cases, simply remain your beautiful self, acknowledge that this is not your wrongdoing and stay compassionate to their cause; in hopes that they will one day be able to see and feel with their hearts.

I hope this helps.

Al