Hi France,

I’m sorry to hear you are going through this. Jealousy and suspicioun are not healthy signs in someone, especially, in the beginning of a relationship. Also, it shows a sign of neediness and clingyness on his part to expect you to respond to his text right away, you have your own life to live, and I understand you love him, but you can’t be at his beck and call as soon as he texts.

You may be at work, in the shower, out with a friend, and doing other things, in other words, you have a life, and it sounds, like he may not have much of one and he is making you his life and world. This is unrealistic expectations that No one can live up to. It might be wise for him, to perhaps her some outside pusuits outside of your relationships, such as more frienships, interests, hobbies, etc before you go any further with him.

If he is like this now, imagine how he will be 3 months from now? He may be controlling, demanding to know why you don’t answer his texts, and this tendency will make you miserable And start affecting other areas of your relationship as well. While I am not saying to break things off with him, this is a red flag and he probably needs to back off a bit and give you some breathing room. Maybe have a discussion with him, and see what his reaction is. If he gets defensive or blames you, you may need to reavulate things with him. No one likes to be controlled. Keep us posted.

• This reply was modified 8 years, 4 months ago by Eliana.