Hi a guy I was talking to on and off for a year really messed me up.

It was a long distance thing and we had been talking on and off for about a year.  When we were “on”, we would speak for hours on the phone each night, and facetime whenever. I knew his entire life story and he was the first person I was ever able to have intimate conversations/share my feelings and opinions with. For me, it was the closest thing I had ever had to a real relationship, whereas he had constantly jumped from relationship to relationship since he was a teenager. He had throughout the year hinted that he was in love with me, and I definitely had similar feelings but we were never in a relationship per say.

Over the course of a month, I noticed every weekend I wouldn’t really hear from him and eventually he told me it was because he started talking to someone else. I was heartbroken, because I had trusted him and believed he was a better person than that. He promptly blocked me on social media and was happily moving on with this new girl. He even went on a vacation with her a week after he stopped talking to me.

I was moving on and coming to terms with everything, when 2 weeks later he calls me a few days before Christmas. He apologized for what happened and how he hurt me and said he wanted me back. I started talking to him but told him that I could not move past what happened. Things ended really badly before with me saying some hurtful things and I wanted to end things on a better note and not have that negative energy out there. So I started talking to him again, maybe for my own feelings of loneliness too.

First few days of him talking to me again, were all about what can I do to get you back, and him texting me etc. Then on Christmas day I said we shouldn’t be talking anymore but that we can pause the convo for now, and discuss this later, since it was Christmas. I never got to discuss it later. The next 3 days we spoke sporadically and he was so difficult to get in touch with. Then one day i was fed up and called him- I never ever called him, he was always the one to call me.  I called him again, after no response. Finally I began to get worried, because this was so unlike him. I sent a txt asking if he was okay. No response. hours went by and finally i messaged him on social media saying I am worried, tell me if you are ignoring me or something is wrong. Nothing.  An hour later I see he posted on social media, although he blocked me from seeing, a picture of him out with a girl. I was livid. I then facteimed him and he must’ve been surprised because he rejected the call. Then I knew he had actually ignored me all day and I had genuinely worried over him for no reason.  I sent him a few texts saying F-off, to which I believed he blocked my number after.

I have not heard from him since, and he has happily moved on with this new girl, and is spending all his time with her. I have never had someone treat me like this, and I don’t know how to cope. I truly trusted him, and although he lied before, I never though he could hurt me like this. He had never ever ignored me before and I just don’t know how to feel better about this all.