I recently ended (2 months ago) my relationship with my boyfriend of 6-years, and realized that he owed me money from the beginning of this year when I leant it to him ($3,000 to be exact). I’ve decided to write this off, and move on with life because it’s painful to have to keep calling him and asking him for it when we’re trying to end this relationship.

I met a guy who I really like (1 month ago), but we agreed to just be friends. We have not been intimate but we are always out partying together, we deep sea fish together (mutual interest), and basically anything else that friends do. He has other women friends, and I have other guy friends and occasionally we get together.

We recently spoke about taking a trip together to see a concert and to a country we’ve both wanted to visit. I agreed that I would purchase the tickets, and he will cover our accommodation and travel. This trip has now been put off because he’s in a screwed financial position and I was ok with it, because sometimes shit does happen.

Because he’s screwed right now, I offered to help him get back on his feet and leant him 4,000$ to sort a few things out with his business that he runs. I do trust him enough to know that he’ll pay me back, but I’m starting to feel very weary about him… almost like I’m being used.

I don’t want to say anything to him and make it seem like I don’t trust him to pay me back, especially after he already said he will but if he doesn’t I was thinking of just taking everything as a loss this year. The money I leant to my ex, as well as my new friend.. and learn from this.

I’m 25 years old, and a really giving person but I’m not here to be someone’s bank.

Does anyone think I should chase this money? or let it all go….