April 19, 2013 at 7:25 am #34049KeysParticipant
Hello Everyone I’m new to this and this is my first time ever doing something like this but I just wanted some advice on a situation…Here’s my story…My boyfriend of two and a half years recently split up about three weeks ago, the reason we broke up is because I found some emails that he was sending and receiving of himself (private parts) to another man on Craig’s list, my heart is broken and although I asked him to leave the home I’m still very much in love with him and I think about him everyday when I confronted him about the emails he said that he never participated in the actual act and that he was looking into strange fetishes, but the emails had explicit conversations. My heart hurt’s so bad, I feel hopeless, I’ve tried contacting him to talk to him but he won’t respond to any of my messages or phone calls, he randomly will text me and say that he loves me and wants to be with me and that we’ll talk but I haven’t heard from him, I’m not sure what to do because I still love him and part of me still want’s to be with him, I try to let go but I don’t know how. Any advice is welcomed.April 19, 2013 at 12:44 pm #34066KarisaParticipant
From the way you sound, your going to do what you want regardless of any advice you receive. Your emotions are high right now and they will betray your rational thinking mind multiple times. The best thing you can do is not beat yourself up about it.
I have a feeling you know that your ex-boyfriend does not respect you or your relationship. He also doesn’t seem to care about fixing things either. Any contact you have with him now will be very emotionally charged and you may not be able to communicate what you really want to say. If you feel like the relationship is worth saving and you can trust him again, then go for it. If not TRY to move on. It WILL take time (for me it took almost a year to fully get over my ex) but evaluate your feelings every month, and you will see that you have actually made progress in a positive direction.
And if you make the wrong choice, and get hurt again? There are no wrong choices! For me, I’ve learned more from my wrong choices than I have from the ones that were easy to make. Each “mistake” you make will only benefit you in the long run. So follow your heart (although it will lead you astray at times) and live with no regrets.
It maybe seem like the end of the world (try to avoid all songs on the radio), but it’s really not. If you are ready to move on, start working on your inner peace. Once your happy by yourself you will never be in this position again. You will realize your self worth, which will allow you to open yourself up to the right person that will ENHANCE your happiness not diminish it.
I wish you all the luck, and whenever your feeling really down, remember it’s just your stupid emotions/hormones trying to trick you, listen to your mind and your soul.