Dear Mary:

You are welcome. I very much like your  list. It reads very reasonable and clear to me.

Regarding #6: “I need to let go of my constant fear of what other people can do to punish and reject me. (I still have to work on this.)”- this is going to take a long time of effort and work, on your part. I wish fear could be resolved quickly and easily.

When you were a child and you were “always emotionally punished for being anything less than perfect in all areas of life… for things that I hadn’t done or were not responsible for, such as my mother’s mental illness”- you feared future punishment and you still do.

It is the same fear getting activated and it will continue to be activated. There is a way to resolve it with the correct attitude, patience, gentleness with yourself and with the process, understanding of how it works, persisting, enduring, learning as you go along.

Post again, anytime.

anita