After not dating for many years, I finally took the plunge and met a man with whom I had immediate chemistry. We are overall very compatible and crazy about each other. He’s funny, smart, sexy and makes me feel like I’m the most beautiful woman he has ever laid eyes on. The only major source of conflict is his chronic, intractable pain issues. The pain is constant, with intense spikes that leave him laid up for extended periods of time. He also turns into a bit of a bear and withdraws from everything while he is trying to cope and he has been quite hurtful at times. He has said many times that this isn’t the life he wants for me and he wants more for me. We broke up over a week ago and I am hurting. I can’t imagine not having him in my life. I know we are both miserable. Being together is what we both want, but being together will also be the cause of a lot of pain. I’m so sad. I feel like I have lost my friend.
How do I know if we have made a mistake?