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  • January 21, 2019 at 11:49 am #275997
    Janush
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    Hello, from the last time I have a feeling that something is wrong with my girlfriend. She avoids talking, and when I asked what was going on and want to talk, she says that everything is okay. She is quiet and sad lately. It’s been a week now. We are together for two years and this has not happened before.

    I invited her to the restaurant, but she said she did not want to go. How to provoke her to a honest conversation? I know her and I know that she is hiding something, but it always came with resistance after 1 day, and now this week is behaving so.

    January 21, 2019 at 12:19 pm #276001
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    Hello Janush,

    Listen don’t panic, it’s just been a week. Give it some time. If I might ask, has there been any more signs that you see from her and are alarming you to believe there’s something hiding? Even the smallest things, could have a meaning.

    January 22, 2019 at 10:45 am #276183
    Janush
    Participant

    When we rode the bus together, I sat in one place and she went to sit on the other. I was embarrassed then

    On the tram it happened once.

    Sometimes when I enter a room, eg a kitchen, she comes out right away, I know it may be a coincidence, but she did not used to do that.

    January 22, 2019 at 1:33 pm #276269
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Janush:

    “Sometimes when I enter a room, eg a kitchen, she comes out right away”- does it mean that you live together?

    When she comes out right away when you are in a kitchen, does she say anything? What do you think motivates her to come to the kitchen immediately when you enter it?

    * I will be away from the computer for about sixteen hours.

    anita

    January 23, 2019 at 11:10 am #276463
    Janush
    Participant

    Yes, I do live with her.

    I can not really find a reason for doing so. It looks like she’s trying to avoid me

    January 23, 2019 at 11:36 am #276479
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Janush:

    Do you live with her as bf/gf, lovers? Or roommates, with other roommates perhaps?

    You wrote that you tried to talk to her but she did not respond, avoiding talking to you. What if you write her a letter, you can type it and hand her the piece of paper, or send her an email. Maybe she will respond better to written communication.

    You can put together such a letter here, on your thread, and I will  give you suggestion about how to make it possibly more inviting for her to respond to you.

    anita

    January 23, 2019 at 11:40 am #276481
    Janush
    Participant

    I have heard about it and I will do it.
    by the way I found a nice method on the internet how to fix a relationship, basically it’s a collection of tips and other things. I am going to apply techniques for a honest conversation, but inow I will try to write a letter.

    January 23, 2019 at 12:04 pm #276483
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Janush:

    If you post this letter here I will be glad to give you my input on it.

    anita

    January 24, 2019 at 9:44 am #276653
    Janush
    Participant

    haha, I’m ashamed of what I wrote there, I’d rather not. I have given it to her today, will see how things will be when she come home, wish me luck.

    I also used a few methods that I mentioned above and I’m sure that they will work.
    Tomorrow I will write about the result.

    January 24, 2019 at 9:56 am #276657
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Janush:

    I wish you luck then and am looking forward to your update tomorrow.

    anita

    January 25, 2019 at 2:29 pm #276963
    Janush
    Participant

    Everything is good. She needed some space. There was a misunderstanding and she believed that I treat her like an object. Ee all got out like adults, I made her realize that I love her the most and I would never hurt her.

    uff, how good that everything is okay. I am glad that I was able to prepare an appropriate atmosphere for this conversation, thanks to this letter too.

    Thanks for the advice! I will write later if it is all right 100%, who knows 🙂

    January 26, 2019 at 7:49 am #277019
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Janush:

    I am glad to read your update, and that the letter helps. Remember it in the future, as you may need to write a letter to her again, it is a better way to communicate for many because the person writing the letter has all the time in the world, and the calm required to express oneself thoroughly, not in any rush. The person reading the letter doesn’t have the pressure of responding quickly and can take her time, respond when she is ready.

    Effective communication is necessary for a relationship to be honest, close and loving. She needs to tell you what bothers her and you need to do the same, in a calm and peaceful way, and the two of you need to resolve misunderstandings and conflicts in a peaceful way that will satisfy both parties.

    Post again anytime you’d like.

    anita

    January 31, 2019 at 12:20 pm #277917
    Janush
    Participant

    I used method described here: bit.ly/2A6i1FO

    It’s an ebook, rly valuable, full of relationship informations. You can check it because it’s free. Just type your email and you will recive this on your mailbox.

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