Hello there,
5 years ago I met a man who I liked a lot right away and hurray, he liked me back. At first there was just some flirting but then we dated a little, but he would never really commit because he had just finished a 7 year relationship, although he was always very sweet and complimentary with me. Like an idiot I stuck with it because I thought that one day he might magically wake up and love me. Then out of the blue he met another girl and suddenly they were an official item. Believe me I was so hurt especially because he just suddenly dropped me and I went through a really rough time because of it. Right there and then I should have sworn never to speak to him again, in fact for six months or so I didn’t speak to him and if I saw him I ignored him. After six months he messaged me and I know now I should have stayed out of it but I was happy to hear from him AND I must admit I felt a little smug because hey, I was important enough to miss even though he was still with the other girl. That was 3 years ago and since then we have had contact every day and seen each other about twice a month more or less, and yes we have a physical relationship. I’m not proud of myself but I have strong feelings for this person. I tell him everything and he tells me everything, he says I am his best friend BUT… you already know where this is going! He is never going to leave his girlfriend especially because they live together – in her house – he has some financial problems and he has worked in her family’s business, she has money and gives him stability. To whoever is reading I appreciate that he sounds like an a.hole and I’m starting to think he might be.. he certainly knows he makes me suffer even though he says he cares for me. Can someone please help me figure out a way to move on.