Hello endlessskies,

There’s a quote you may have come across before – “Those who mind don’t matter, those who matter don’t mind”.

You are strong. Strong people also get hurt, and that’s okay.

Yes it hurts when people who don’t know who you really are (i.e. your personality) judge you by appearances. The thing about beauty is that it’s really subjective to different people.

I had recently experienced a situation where a few people acted as if I wasn’t a human being worth their time talking to (like what happened to common courtesy?). It hurt, and I thought about various things related to the situation :

In my gratitude journal: I was grateful I had friends and family who cheered me up when I told them about the situation.

In my personal journal: I wrote about how my self-worth took a hit when I was treated in that way when I didn’t do anything to offend said people.

Lessons learnt from the incident: I would never treat people in that manner, and I’d keep on smiling (even if my smiles have to be forced in certain situations). I feel that if a person brought value to my life, then I would reciprocate in kind – otherwise some people are better off being avoided due to their negativity.

(Well that example is a bit different to your situation, but I think you can relate to gratitude, expressing yourself personally and not bottling up, and reflecting on how you are going to act from then on.)

There will be people who like acting in a somewhat negative manner. It’s not you, it’s them.

Hope this post helps!

Hana

• This reply was modified 8 years, 3 months ago by Hana L.

Dear endlessskies,

1) Yes you are already beautiful, undoubtedly.
How? – At the time when our body dies (before it gets decayed) we still lie down there with the same physical structure – our hair, features of the face, body structure, (even the T-shirt), etc. that was on the same morning when the person dies. If someone shaved on that day then the dead body will be cleanly shaved. If we had a lot of beard or a moustache on that day then the dead body will be seen that way. Irrespective of the physical appearance, the body has died. The physical body is still lying there, but then what has gone from the body such that the person is being called as “dead”? What is no more “inside” the body such that the same person (or body) who was talking and laughing yesterday is now no more moving lying out there? That’s the Life-Force inside our body that animates our being. That’s the Soul that gives life to the body. Without the soul, the body is like a light bulb without electricity. In short, we are not the Body but the Soul. We are the Soul and this Body is our medium (vehicle) through which we express our thoughts, feelings and actions. The Soul, in itself, does not have any physical structure like eyes, nose, ears, face, beard, etc. Those are features of the body. The Soul is just a sparkling, a jewel, a radiant inner being. You (and I) are that beautiful radiant inner being. That is why it is said as “You are the Light”. You are the light, no matter what’s gonna be. The Body keeps on changing but the Soul remains the same. – “You are the same, you are eternity.”

With the above knowledge always in the intellect of your mind, make a distinction between your Body and your Soul. Separate them out. Be as much as possible in the Soul-Conscious mode versus the Body-Conscious mode. You can do that by imagining yourself as that beautiful sparkling seated at the center of your forehead. Imagine the below picture whenever you come across any unfavourable situations that bother you.

(https://s9.postimg.org/j5nbtxdpr/Soul_img.jpg)

May be you could save it onto your mobile to refer frequently.

Continue to keep focusing on your work and all your blessings that you mentioned. Continue to “Be the Light” to the world, that you already are.

2) Got through Sam Berns’ ‘My philosophy for a happy life’ who was diagnosed with Progeria, a rare, rapid aging disease, at the age of 2.

3) “How do I stay strong inside when people are constantly staring at me or laughing at me.”

At first, separate out and visualize yourself as described above in Point 1) during those unfavourable experiences.
At some situations when our visualization goes weak, like it happens for all of us, use the below practical tip which you will surely be able to do.

All you need to do is simply say, declare, chant, sing, proclaim, or even just think the word “PRAISE”.
Keep repeating it either silently or loudly or mentally, however you want and whenever you want and especially during those unwanted situations.

Explanation:
PRAISE – to feel beautiful; to feel yourself charming and attractive; to praise yourself irrespective of anybody else’s opinion.

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These are very powerful words and they are called as Switchwords.
More details on what they are and how to use them are explained in the below post.
You can take a look at it at a later stage.
(http://tinybuddha.com/topic/need-a-miracle/#post-114281)
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Keep yourself equipped with these things and you will continue to Be The Light of your Soul because You Are Not Your Body!

Take Care.

VJ

• This reply was modified 8 years, 3 months ago by VJ.