Dear Perrie:
I think it is a good idea for you to make sure that no child is brought into this marriage at this point or at all at any time. You “can’t handle her mood swings anymore!”, you can imagine how harmful such mood swings will be to a child.
If she will not talk about what bothers her, not to you and not to a psychotherapist, then better exit the marriage. The way it is- that is not a good way to live.
So she cooked and seemed to be in a good mood, smiling. Then you sit down and eat and no more smiling, no talking and she hits her plate hard with a spoon. Probably a distressing thought occurred in her brain, maybe something to do with what was going on (maybe she didn’t like the way you eat, or she wanted you to compliment a particular thing you were eating the moment you were eating it and you didn’t) and maybe a thought occurred to her that has nothing to do with you or with what was happening at the table. In any case, you can’t read her mind and can’t predict or do anything about such mood swings.
anita