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  • August 2, 2016 at 2:10 pm #111347
    J
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    I made a post earlier in the “Work” forum. I worked at one retail store I hated, taught for a while until that job gave me anxiety and now work at Sears. I HATE THIS JOB! I literally cannot stand it. I’m only working this job to get out of the house as advised by my therapist. I have a dream of teaching English abroad and traveling as a career and I’m trying to make that possible, but at the same time I have applied of a job as a TSA agent. Now my stomach is bothering me like crazy. I already suffer from acid reflux and I’ve been dealing with gas, nausea, and stomach pain for the past 3 days. My schedule had me on for 8 days straight. Today would’ve been day 6, but I had to call in as I was feeling dizzy when standing. It also doesn’t make it better that I have a trip to Vegas next week and I don’t want my stomach or anything to bother me on this trip.

    I had this problem when I was teaching too. I just don’t know how to stop stressing myself out. I take meds for the anxiety, but I still can’t stop worrying and working at a job that I despise doesn’t make it any better. I just feel so out of place at this job. I never know what I’m going to be doing for the day when I get there and when I ask a manager, they either don’t know or I get a snooty answer. I just feel like my other coworkers are more important than me. I just don’t feel like I’m needed at this job. But I don’t think I’ll ever find a job that I’m at least content with. I just don’t know what to do. And family and friends don’t help, they just stress me out even more and that just makes the chronic worry even worse. I just figure work is work and shouldn’t be enjoyable, but the stress is just getting to me. I don’t know how to not stress out! Please help

    August 2, 2016 at 7:05 pm #111374
    Anonymous
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    Dear J:

    maybe you should quit the job. Your physical symptoms are sending you a very clear message: this job is making you sick. What about quitting it?

    anita

    August 3, 2016 at 9:44 am #111429
    J
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    I want to quit so bad. But I don’t have another job lined up and I don’t want to not have any money coming in even though it’s a little. It’s just I hate this job and even though I applied for the tsa, the process is so long and I don’t really know if I even want a tsa job and my mom keeps stressing about it. I just can’t relax and my mom kept saying don’t make a habit of calling in and that I should just go to work not feeling too well. I know I’ll have days where I’ll be suck and trudge to work, but I feel sick to my stomach every time I have to go there.

    I sometimes go in and think “well I’ll just make the best of it, it’s only temporary”, but then something reminds me of how much I hate this job and that makes me want to pursue teaching abroad even more and get out of this hell hole. But I need some money right now.

    August 3, 2016 at 10:09 am #111430
    Anonymous
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    Dear J:

    You are in a difficult situation, no doubt. I wish your mother didn’t add to your distress: is there a way for you to successfully communicate to her that you need her to lay off the pressure because you are clearly suffering?

    Did you try to detach yourself at Sears; I am thinking you probably did, but did you? Kind of being there but not being there?

    anita

    August 3, 2016 at 11:51 am #111443
    Mohit Tyagi
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    It is a tough situation to be in & I can relate. I also do not like my job but then who does? Anything which makes us little uncomfortable, which forces us to come out of our safe zone, we hate those things don’t we?

    But I tell you what. Look at what this job is giving you. It is giving you a decent salary, a security that even if you are sick you will get paid and many more benefits. I know you don’t like it. But first accept the good things your job allows you to have.

    Next I would suggest you to do 2 things:

    1. Do some physical activity to destress and reduce the anxiety. Anxiety is all in our head. When you are putting such strong thoughts of hate & discomfort & your constant struggle to go abroad for travel it all kinds of keep your brain engaged for 24 hours. You need to vent out this excess energy otherwise it will come out in form of all symptoms you mentioned. I did same and trust me physical activity helps a lot to resolve these issues.
    2. Make a plan that how you could switch your job? Make a plan how much money you would need to quit your job & travel? And then start executing those plans.

    In short focus on positive and constructive aspects of your life. Try to minimize negativity. Focus on doing stuff rather than thinking about it.

    Try these two things and do let us know if it helped.

    August 3, 2016 at 12:23 pm #111446
    Bill
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    at the start of the song acorns by the white stripes the narrative says that similar to a squirrel carrying nuts to its shelter before winter, if we break our problems into small parts we can carry them one at a time. if we try to carry all of out problems (and it sounds like you’re dealing with a lot) at the same time we will break under the weight of it all. i think it would be worth a shot for you to just remember that it’s one day at a time and that we can’t go leaps and bounds ahead of ourselves. we have t….no, YOU have to take small steps, maybe even baby steps towards overcoming your personal obstacles. Try to remember that you are doing the best you can. it might not be the best you want it to be, but if it was then that wouldn’t be you. if you’re using every tip, advice, mantra etc that you have in your metaphorical arsenal in order to help yourself, then that’s you doing the best you can so don’t be too hard on yourself. again try breaking your problems into smaller bits. try your best to pin point what about work makes you unsettled (the people, the work, the building, whatever really?). Don’t admit defeat and give up on yourself. you deserve to be happy and healthy and stable in all areas of your life. You’re doing fantastically by trying to gain help from this community and from your therapist.

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