Sorry its gonna be a bit long… So, I (26) met this guy (28), who is my best friend´s brother (she wasnt my best friend, and i never met him before..), around february and at first it was just some kisses when we saw each other on parties and social gatherings, then (May) it scalated to some dates (this guy travels a lot because of his job, he spends one month away and then come back for 2 weeks and returns to his travel for the whole month) but we saw each other every week he would be home, we never had sex haha because he was very respectful about the fact that i was afraid of him blowing me off after it (past relationships traumas haha).

In august, we went to a wine festival, with his whole family and some friends and we where having the time of our lives, he even said he was having a wonderful time with me, we talked about having sex that night, but everything went down hill when my friend (his sister) lost her mind (thanks to something terrible that happened to her, she was raped and had an abortion, which he didn’t know) and she said to me that i was the worst person ever because all i ever wanted was her brother and when he steped in to defend me, she said to him that he was the worst brother because he was spending every little time he is home he is with me and not her, it was a huge scene in this event and at the hotel, it lasted about 4 hours the whole shit show, at the end he spend the nigh with her because they had a lot to talk about (regarding, i assume, her situation and me…) I told him to be with her becasue she started saying things about killing her self and stuff… some how, the next morning he was super sweet with me, and nice and like himself… we returned home and i wasnt comfortable to stay and watch a movie with them both, so i left and i know he didnt like that, i saw it on his eyes, but i really needed to get to my home and think about all the things she said to me (about her brother and about other very hurtful things she said). That week he had to go back to detroit and i wanted to make sure everything between us was fine or what was going on, but he said he didnt feel so well, so he said that it was best when he returns… and we didnt because i waited for him to send me something when he was back, and he never did, but when he was in detroid we texted like we used to, so i got really confused, then… in october he showed up to a halloween party I PLANED, it was MY party, and he showed up WITH ANOTHER GIRL.

My heart broke, but i am a really polite woman, so i didnt say anything except “i was very excited to see you, no with another girl, but whatever” and i was nice to the girl and him. But i needed to know what the hell so we met for some beers that week and talked about it, I told him that i was very naïve and that maybe i was living a fantasy but that i thought we had something real going on, and (NOTE: basically I told him, blame it on me, tell me im an idiot and that it was just a nothing thing) and he said, and i quote “not at all, i like you very very much, i have the best time with you, i think you are very very atractive, and i really enjoy being with you, but what happened in  the wine festival  shook me and made me think what would happen if things dont work out, between you and me, between you and my sister and between me and my sister” i told him that if he made up his mind about not being with my the hell did he texted me or reply to my texts, and he said because he also wanted to talk to me, he also began to explain that he was coming out of a 6 years relationship (they broke up because she cheated on him) and at first he wasnt looking for anything but when he started to know me a little better he was willing to go all the way because he wanted to be with me every time he could.

Then, i asked him about the girl he was with, and he said that he really wasnt that much into her, that she works with him and travels with him for work, that she was really into him for the last year, and that they are friends and that she even knew about me becuasue he told her that he was dating this girl and blah blah, but that this last time he traveled for work they had sex because he was like confused about the whole thing, never the less they are still dating, and it seems like a really formal kind of dating… and if i text him he replies, if i bump into him when i visit my friend he gets nervous and is super nice with me (polite, i suppose)

Wierd thing, i belive him, the way he said it and because of how he is, i know he was telling me the truth (or he is a master mind of lying, or sociopathic and i really doubt that) What i dont understand is… WHY, why if he “wants” to be with me, he changed his mind so quickly, why is he with her if he doest really like her that much. what could i possibly have done wrong?! if there is anything, and even though i talked to my friend, she said she will not talk to him (before the other girl) because their relationship was not like that…he kind of hinted that if she was ok with it, we could try it agian… but she said she didnt want to get involved (too late i think) I dont want to involve her, and he doesnt want to involve her, but he also doesnt have the (sorry) balls to talk to her and tell her anything from heart.

I know i should probably let go, he wasnt even my boyfriend, but i really really love him, i swear to god i have never felt this way about other guys, except my ex boyfriend and even with him i understood when things where over, but some how i dont feel like its over with him and i dont know why because he is with another girl and he wont “fight” his sister to be with me (although i think there shouldn’t be a fight because she says she would be happy for the two of us, but she is crazy and she does lie a hell of a lot) and trust me i tried to let go, and focus on my self and my job and stuff, but i find my self sobbing every night, (im even crying right now while i type this bible) its January and i still think about him, i still think of how much fun i had with him, how much he turns me on, how much comfortable i was with him. I think there is nothing more I can possibly do, its on him but i dont know what to do to make him do something.

is gonna sound super cheesy, but i really think and feel we have a conection of some sort, i dont belive in horoscopes and love at first sight or “the one” and stuff like that, but with him i DO feel i lost the one, which is wierd… but thats what i feel…

Its super long hahaha but i really need something from someone, my friends are like “k, next” but they change guys so easy i dont trust them haha

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