I need help. My skin problem cause severe depression

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December 6, 2016 at 5:41 pm #122076

Euroka
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I hope that I can get some help. I started to have bumps under my eyes which my dermatologist said it is syringoma. It won’t go away by itself like pimple. It will be there until I die and get worse with age. Basically, there is nothing I can do to remove it completely without the risk of getting scars. I will have to accept this skin condition and live with it. After I did a lot of research about syringoma and looked at pictures of people who have it all over the face, I get really scared that my face will soon become like that. I am only 30 and still single. I fear that nobody will love me because I will look ugly. No matter how I try, I find it hard to accept my condition. I got very depressed and panic every time I looked into mirror and saw suspected new bump appears on my face. Overtime, I developed anxiety and panic attack as a side effect of syringoma.

I tried meditate. I learnt about visualisation to let body heal itself hoping one day those bumps will disappear. I read inspiring stories of people who overcome disability, illness and hardship in life just to know that my problem is just a small thing. I learnt to be grateful for what I have. But the moment I look into mirror, all that I learnt and practice vanish.

I hate myself for being so weak. We all know inner beauty is more important but it is like a theory that it is hard to put into practice for me. I am also ashamed of myself for feeling that way. I am so tired of all these overwhelming emotion that I have to deal everyday to the point that I sometimes just want to end my life.

December 6, 2016 at 6:23 pm #122081

Anonymous
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Dear euroka:

Allow yourself to feel whatever it is you are feeling about your skin condition. Remove shame from those other feelings. Don’t judge yourself negatively for being emotionally affected by it.

I googled the condition and saw photos. You wrote that as you age these will look worse. More reality, if I may: as you age, everything will look worse, not only those 1-3mm bumps! My goodness, being older than you, I don’t want to tell you how many things look worse. We are all on the same boat- if we live long enough, we will age.

All your fear, your anxiety, is focused now on those bumps. Psychotherapy with a competent, empathetic therapist to examine your anxiety (originated before the condition and now …nesting in those bumps) will help a whole lot!

anita

December 7, 2016 at 2:14 am #122132

VJ
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Hi euroka,

Activate your own body’s immune system to heal your health issues.

Start off with ‘The Healing Codes’.
(http://tinybuddha.com/topic/need-frank-advice-about-being-stuck/#post-119908)

Used for a number of health concerns including skin issues.
(http://thehealingcodes.com/success-stories/)
(http://thehealingcodes.com/success-stories/melanoma/)
(http://thehealingcodes.com/success-stories/skin-cancer/)
(http://thehealingcodes.com/success-stories/skin-cancer-1/)

This will also bring down all the emotional issues that you described related to the skin problem – depression, feeling panicky, hating yourself, being ashamed of yourself and wanting to end your life and so forth.

Take Care and you will Live Well!
VJ

December 8, 2016 at 2:26 am #122242
Mark
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Hello. I can understand you. All body problems can provide mental problems. Don’t let them do it. You think too much about it. Comments above are great and follow their advises. Maybe you’d like to read about this disease more. For example I have pemphigus vulgaris described here (https://illnessee.com/pemphigus-vulgaris-pictures/) and I accept this. Don’t go blue
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December 8, 2016 at 9:33 pm #122320

JS
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Hi Euroka:

I understand how you feel. I would suggest going to a different dermatologist. It’s always good to get a second, third, maybe even fourth opinion about your condition. There may be alternatives that the first dermatologist is too lazy/apathetic to mention. It may cost you, but if it’s something you’re willing to invest in, there is always financing.
I personally prefer going to female dermatologists. They seem to have a better understanding about women’s skin conditions.

I had something similar, and I had them cauterized. They scabbed and then peeled off. That was in the 90’s. I think now, a chemical peel might be suggested. You might need several treatments. But, please do extensive research before undergoing any treatment.

I also found some possible natural remedies. I’m not sure how effective they are, but it is worth a try. Apple Cider Vinegar seems like it cures everything! Here is a link: https://authorityremedies.com/how-to-get-rid-of-syringomas/

Also, please remember – the kind of person you want to be with is someone who is going to love you for who you are and see how beautiful you are. If someone is going to see your skin condition as a “dealbreaker”, ask yourself if you even want to be with that kind of person in the first place?!?

Namaste.

December 13, 2016 at 7:42 am #122594

Rose Tattoo
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I’ve had acne since I was 10 (I’m now 46, and though I don’t have much active acne anymore, I have a lot of scars on my face and chest). I used to think the same thing: that I would be too ugly and nobody would want me. But the truth is that I’ve never had problems attracting romantic and sexual partners. It took many years for me to finally just stop worrying about my skin, and once that happened, I noticed that people were attracted to me. I started using apple cider vinegar (as the poster above suggests) and it definitely helped, though have no idea if it would help your condition. I also agree with the poster who suggested getting another opinion. It’s possible that your first dermatologist doesn’t know everything.

As I got older, I started to realize that my acne has helped me build empathy and compassion for others, especially for people who aren’t “perfect”, and has made me strong and resilient.

You’ll be OK, I promise!
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