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June 5, 2018 at 9:01 am #210911
FridahParticipantLately I feel like nothing motivates me, I want to find the purpose in my life for myself not for others. And i don’t know where to start. It feels like have done all to please other and to get attention from others, to be seen, define and recognized by others. But I want to do stuff for me to please me to encourage myself.
Thanks!
June 5, 2018 at 11:41 pm #211133
FluidReality69ParticipantI understand this feeling, and I opened up your post because of the title I was actually looking for answers myself. But after reading this I realized your answer was obvious… and could be my answer too.
You said “I want to find the purpose in my life for myself not for others.”
But what I think your subconscious was trying to explain… is that you need to find purpose in others. I have a feeling that you are disconnected with your energy, you know what energy I’m talking about, the glowing gut filled butterflies feeling you get when you know somethings right; I’m missing the same feeling in my life.
The answer is simple we need to share our energy with others in a positive way to create positive energy. In my own life I have realized I want something to find me but I know that will never happen, so I will have to go out and do some good in the world and see what comes from it. Good luck on your venture through the journey!
I’m no specialist obviously, but I hope my comparison helps you.
-Serena
June 6, 2018 at 12:54 am #211149
AnonymousGuestDear Fridah:
From your short share you were motivated so far “to be seen.. by others”. You are now looking for another motivation. My suggestion is that the new motivation will be for you to see yourself, to look in the mirror, figuratively, with empathy for yourself.
In April this year you wrote that you were “ashamed, afraid, sad, angry” at yourself, that you “don’t deserve anything”- but you do deserve empathy and a new beginning.
See yourself differently, as a woman who experienced pain, deserves empathy and a new beginning in life, this very day.
anita
June 7, 2018 at 5:04 am #211359FridahParticipantGood morning,
To Serena: Thank you for replying to my post, you right we all are energy positive or negative, but I thing at this moment in my life I have none to share, I feel drained so How I can share something that I dont’ have. some times I just want to be alone and in silence.
Thank you again!
June 7, 2018 at 5:20 am #211361FridahParticipantGood morning,
To: Anita,
Thanks for your time and response. For me to look myself in the mirror is scary and i don’t know how to do it?., Yes last April I was desperate for a mistake I made but now I don’t feel like it was a mistake, now I think everything happened for a reason, maybe is a lesson that I have to learn, but i don’t know yet what lesson, even thou I haven’t overcome it.
I just feel frustrated and lack of motivation, and I don’t know where to start finding that.
Thanks again!
June 7, 2018 at 5:39 am #211369AnonymousGuestDear Fridah:
You wrote that you don’t know where to start finding motivation. How about starting where you lost it, going back to the time and place where and when you lost the motivation the first time, as early back as you can remember.
A baby is born with lots of motivation. A young child is filled with motivation to sit, then stand then walk; to touch things, to learn the first word and add thousands more words to it, to reach out to be held and loved. Lots of motivation. What happened to that inborn motivation of yours?
anita
June 7, 2018 at 7:48 am #211387FridahParticipantHi Anita, to be honest I don’t remember when or If i have ever been motivated by myself, maybe that’s why I don’t know where to start.
Thanks!
June 7, 2018 at 8:04 am #211393AnonymousGuestDear Fridah:
You don’t remember when you were “motivated by myself’- what do you mean by “by myself”? Do you remember being motivated not by yourself?
anita
June 7, 2018 at 8:30 am #211397FridahParticipantWhen I said by myself, I meant I do things to please someone else, to call someone’s attention specially my love ones.
June 7, 2018 at 8:42 am #211401AnonymousGuestDear Fridah:
And what happens when you “do things to please… love ones”, how do they (and did, in the past) respond?
If you want to share further, by answering my question above, please do. If you don’t, that is okay. I don’t like the idea of me causing a member discomfort by asking questions.
So, if you are interested in engaging with me, please do.
anita
June 7, 2018 at 9:02 am #211411FridahParticipantIt is okay, you’re not causing me discomfort, I’m just a quiet and introverted person, but I like this website because no body knows me.
Some of the reactions were by cheering me up, other ones didn’t care, and most of them get used to that.
Thankas Anita, for your time.
June 7, 2018 at 9:14 am #211415AnonymousGuestDear Fridah:
You are welcome. You wrote: “no body knows me”. I would like to get to know you better. Tell me about your childhood, specifically about your relationship with your parents, with your mother, or your father or with both.
anita
June 7, 2018 at 10:44 am #211441FridahParticipantSorry Anita, but I don’t feel like going there. Thanks!
June 7, 2018 at 11:39 am #211455AnonymousGuestYou are welcome, Fridah. I respect your choice.
anita
June 9, 2018 at 4:16 am #211743
Lily XuanParticipantDear Fridah, thanks for voicing out on this topic. 🙂 Sometimes I also face periods where I do not have motivation. What I found to be helpful is when I decide to treat myself well like I am a special guest. E.g. how will I treat another special guest and I practice it on myself. I realize when I take the time and effort to honour myself, it really helps me in feeling more motivation and at peace with life. Hope this helps you!
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