So I’ve been a perfectionist all my life, always striving to get approval from others and this of course comes out strongly in my job, too.

But when my coworker and I were both in LA on a business trip, we were having a party with the purpose of business. When it ended, a few of us wanted to go to a strip club since they don’t have them in our country. My coworker and I were the only ones who ended up going. I’m bisexual but haven’t told anyone at work. He and I have never really been friends, in fact he saw me as a bore because I’m an overachiever and I saw him as a douche who parties too much.

That night though, I admitted to him I was interested in girls and he admitted to me that he considers himself an alcoholic. I told him I’m so TIRED of being perfect. We went to the strip club and then shared an Uber home. We ended up sleeping together, without having planned it. I don’t even LIKE this guy as a person, until that night.

The next morning, we acted completely normal and I even kissed him goodbye and said “See you in January”. Then we didn’t have any contact for one month until I came home.

What is your experience with one night stands with a coworker? How do you handle it best?

We’ve seen each other now at the office, but still haven’t discussed what happened. What would you do, just keep acting like nothing happened? Or should I try to confront him about it and acknowledge that it happened and that it doesn’t have to become a big deal? It’s a small office and we’re going to be seeing each other five days a week.