One thing that helps me when dealing with unwanted emotions is to remember that emotions are usually there to motivate us to take some sort of action. A conflict arises when we are trying to motivate ourselves with emotion, but our mind is telling us that we can’t or should not do what it is our emotions are trying to motivate us to do. So when you are doing that self talk, ask yourself what your emotions want from you. If you get an answer, then you can self talk back as to why you understand why you want to do that, but also why you can’t.
Helps me sometimes. Emotions don’t really go away, but they are easier to accept and live with. The voltage on the cattle prod gets turned down a bit.