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  • September 28, 2013 at 12:39 pm #42936
    Elham
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    I have been married for 6 months officially.But actually we were engaged for 3 years.I never wanted to get married.I wasn’t ready and even before my marriage I said that I didn’t want it but because I am from a religious country,no one accepted that .Now I can’t connect to my husband at all.I get no feelings from him.He doesn’t agree to separate.Nobody understands me.I really don’t know what to do.I am a person full of energy,full of life but this relationship takes all my energy.I don’t know why he can’t let go.I can’t understand why he wants to stick to this relationship!!!!!!!!!!!!! My soul is really exhausted and wants and needs to be free.
    How can I help him understand?What language should I use?
    I don’t know really
    …………………

    September 29, 2013 at 7:46 am #42949
    Matt
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    Elham,

    I’m uncertain about the differences in culture between us. Do you have to have his permission to leave him? Is convincing him the only option? Are there legal reasons why you are stuck?

    With warmth,
    Matt

    September 29, 2013 at 10:10 am #42952
    Elham
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    Thanks for the reply Matt.

    In my country husbands should divorce their wives.I am from Iran!
    You know,there is no mutual connection.I feel nothing.The saddest moment is when I hear he is coming home and I have nothing to talk about,to share.when I am alone,I enjoy life but with him,not at all.
    I really don’t know what to do.I have talked to him a lot that there is no feeling but he just seems not to understand,not to listen at all as he considers divorce a taboo.
    I can’t understand why he can’t accept it.
    I know that he has his own perspective but life is too short………..
    I am really helpless……..

    September 30, 2013 at 9:03 am #42991
    Jade
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    I don’t feel I can adequately give you the advice you deserve, but I hope you find your path to true happiness. Know that you are not alone; though no one probably speaks about it there are likely other women in your community who have similar issues and questions.

    Here is an article I read a while back that shows that there are women seeking divorce in Iran, it can be done! http://www.nytimes.com/2010/12/07/world/middleeast/07divorce.html?pagewanted=all

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