I understand- I’ve had someone in my life once give me the same type of criticism. Know that it’s not your fault you are being treated this way. The only way to win IS to love yourself.  Look up exercises online for finding self-compassion (Such as by Kristin Neff) or radical self love advice. You need to let the weight thing go or it will ruin your life. You are already beautiful. We are fed a lie by society that we must look a certain way to be attractive. It’s not true at all. It’s just what we have known all our lives and believed. Don’t lose yourself in that.

If you want diet and exercise tips, here are mine- I’m a mix of vegan and keto. If you don’t want to go vegan, look into keto at least. I am fuller faster and longer because of it. I also recommend steel cut oats for breakfast. Not rolled oats. STEEL CUT. They are a little harder to prepare but worth it. I lost a lot of weight doing this and it kept me full almost all day. I do this or a mix of any keto friendly cereal (catalina crunch is another example). I eat an avocado a day for the keto, plant protein drink, roasted or stir fried vegges (From a food kit) and an apple and banana a day. As long as you are HEALTHY, a diet plan is okay to have. It’s fun to find recipes too. 🙂

For workout, I’ve tried EVERYTHING. And I’ve found a)I love nature b) jogging is doable. So I’m not super in shape but I mix a run and fast walking when I’m outside in the cool evening. (or whenever you want). It’s taken a few months to get it a part of my routine but I enjoy it. The runner’s high is a real thing too!

I hope that all helps you regain control. Remember- you are beautiful.

Edit: For the isolation thing, try some facebook support groups!

• This reply was modified 3 years, 6 months ago by Sarah Jeanne Browne.
• This reply was modified 3 years, 6 months ago by Sarah Jeanne Browne.

Hey,

It’s okay to feel this way, last year , I had an accident , was not meds and on complete bed rest. I gained alot of weight afterwards, I am still on that same weight but things have changed. Initially, I used to get bothered by people looking at me and saying things that have the potential to hurt anyone. I used to change clothes again and again because i was experiencing a change in my body’s shape for the very first time and trust me, I was not very comfortable with it. But you must remember that someone else’s perception of yours doesn’t have to be how you view yourself. You must have seen so many people out there who are not the ideal body type, they are really happy with their weight and body, why, because beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, all your beauty is there in your current body, only if you are willing to see it.

It’s more a function of how you see yourself which basically commands how you feel. So don’t run after what seems right(the ideal body type) , follow what feels right.

Dear Sara:

“Hearing her laugh at the notion of me gaining weight. Not understanding the depression behind the weight gain”- if she laughs at you for gaining weight, it is not about her misunderstanding depression behind gaining weight; it is about her desire  to make you feel bad about gaining bad, is it/isn’t it?

anita