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January 18, 2014 at 12:37 pm #49322
Jon KingParticipant“It will all work out in the end…”
This is what I was told this morning by a close friend after telling her about all the hardships I feel like I’ve been going through for the past year or so.
I don’t know if I’m alone in thinking this, but this is the last phrase I want to hear when I’m suffering and depressed. How the hell do you know it will all work out? Can you give me some empirical evidence? Up to this point I feel like NOTHING has worked out in the end. Not to say this is the truth, but this is how I see things right now and the last thing I need is someone to tell me that everything is goddamn rainbows and unicorns. My evidence (in my head, of course) tells me otherwise.
I know, I know, they had good intentions. They don’t want to see me upset, suffer, etc. This is a very close friend and I know they just want to make things better. But I don’t need anyone to tell me everything’s going to be alright, or to tell me what to do; I don’t want anyone to do anything, really. I just need someone to listen. Really listen. Don’t judge; don’t prescribe; don’t try to even help. Just listen.
Maybe then I can listen to myself.
January 18, 2014 at 2:17 pm #49325
MattParticipantThat makes sense, so what do you have to say?
January 19, 2014 at 9:16 am #49335
Jon KingParticipantStill trying to figure that out.
January 19, 2014 at 10:24 am #49343
MattParticipantSo you were only complaining about your friend?
January 23, 2014 at 8:44 pm #49648
StraightNoChaserParticipantI know how you feel. I hate when people say crap like that. You want to say “I don’t even know why I talk to you anymore” lol worse then that is when they say “awww”.
A variation to that advice would be “everything will work out in the end, and if it hasn’t worked out then it isn’t the end”. I keep that in the back of my head. It ain’t over til it’s over.
I’m having a hard time right now too and it really does feel like it will never end. I can’t picture my life being any better its been this way for so long. Sometimes you want someone to tell you exactly how it will get better. You want a psychic to tell you a month from now you will [insert dream here].
The only thing that keeps me going is that if I do make it one day to help/inspire people who are going through the same thing. I don’t know if you watch How I Met Your Mother but I picture my life kind of like that. Narrating my story watching myself breakdown and saying “little did I know my dream job would call me two months later and my life changed”
Don’t know if that made sense or was helpful but I don’t want to piss you off with bad advice just want to give you a little hope without saying it will all work out. 🙂
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