Dear Paul:

I just looked into previous threads, a couple of years ago you shared that you were married for forty years, 40 years, is this correct? If so, you are a man in your sixties.

When you wrote above that you ‘should just chill” – what do you mean?

anita

Dear Paul:

I hope you do chill. In your original very short post you wrote: “Trying to heal and not fall into depression.”

Write more about what needs healing in your mind and heart, if you’d like, for further input.

anita

Dear Paul:

I mentioned your age because I was under the impression that you were a very young man, a teenager or early twenties because of the very short sentences, and what seemed to me (again, it is a first, quick impression) lack of experience or insight.

Mentioning age and time, you wrote “if time truly heals”- time heals superficial wounds, I learned, not the deep, long term ones. So maybe your pain over this particular breakup will lessen and be gone.

I hope so.

anita

You are welcome, Paul. Post anytime.
anita

Dear Paul:

Maybe you can attend a support group? There are groups of people meeting for the purpose of talking about the aloneness and incompleteness that you mentioned. For example Codependent Anonymous, if you live in the U.S, and maybe in a city location, can be such a place. If you google support groups, you may find a group you will enjoy attending, be around people who will listen to you empathetically, provide comfort and share their stories with you.

anita